Build Trust For A Healthy Relationship

Posted by: Pooja.Brahmi  :  Category: Relationships, dating, self growth

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you”

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The Need Of Any Relationship Is…

No relationship on this earth can survive without “Trust”, in its absence any relationship is “hollow” and can never last for a long time. Majority of break-ups, relationship problems or differences are because of “Trust Issues”, that’s why in today’s time the rate of divorces is increasing at a drastic pace.

Trust is an utmost important pillar of any relationship, before you start the reviving process of trusting yourself first and to become trustworthy you need to tell yourself that you should not be afraid of abiding to the journey of being honest and transparent.

Your Actions  Should Match Your Words...

All I can say from my personal experience is you need to trust yourself first before you expect others to trust you. In a relationship one of the main reasons why couples face relationship problems is when their actions don’t match to their words (commitments). If you don’t make an attempt to analyze your actions then your relationship will deteriorate day by day.

How priorities become different…

The phases of life demand a change in you as a person, from the very time you start dating your partner to getting married and then having kids. Every stage of life stipulates different responsibilities from your side to fulfill. Hence, your behavior, actions and nature ought to change. Usually couples face differences because they are not able to spend quality time together and sometimes you feel left out! Even during those times you should talk to your partner of what you are experiencing and how both of you can work towards taking out some time together. Be patient of the current circumstances and build trust towards each other and affirm your commitment towards the relationship.


Let’s just face it – “We all do Silly Things”

Don’t we all agree that all relationships have a pinch of chaos and off course love for each other? If sometimes you end up doing silly things that hurt you partner. Instead of saying “you didn’t mean it” Just accept your mistake and move on. If you think your actions or words have hurt your partner intentionally or unintentionally then you should work out your relationship by building trust. Try to understand the feelings of your partner, and put her/him at your place and then analyze the whole situation.

Oh Honey I love you so much But…

But I don’t get the time to help you with the kids, I would love to help you but I really don’t like offer you a helping hand to do household work and Yes I love to cook but I prefer your cooked food! Haaaaaa

Just 3 words of love you “I love you” are overused!!! If you don’t care about your partner by showing little – little gestures then your love goes right into the drain. Don’t make your partner “suspect” or “question” your love. Love is not just about sharing nice moments or cuddling on the bed. It’s about making each other’s life easier and happy. In the journey of life you need to make an effort to realize how you can comfort your partner.

If You Want Full Disclosure – Then Be Calm And Hear It Out

When you get into a relationship, there are some uncomfortable past incidents which couples usually feel hesitant to share; may be because of the fear of losing someone. But if you demand the full disclosure from your partner demands then you should be prepared to listen to the truth and accept it. This way you build trust with your partner, hence no blaming game or accusation after that whatsoever!

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Always Remember There Is Nothing Called Small Lies

Sometimes, couples think to themselves that it’s just a trivial thing they are lying about. This will put your partner in a position where he/she will suspect you for everything possible that is coming out of your mouth. So watch out! You are most likely to be seen as someone who can’t be trusted by your partner.

Most Importantly Trust Your Heart

Without love for your partner, you can never thrive to build trust. Be very sure of what you want, if you want someone badly you will have a fear of losing them. The only key to have a healthy and everlasting love for each other is to build the foundation of your relationship by strengthening Trust in your relationship.

Be Sensitive

Be sensitive towards The Dreams of Your Partner. In today’s time both the partners are striving to be successful in their respective careers. Don’t just focus on your individual professional goals, guide or understand your partner in his/her dreams. In the time of need the support system towards your partner will make him/her realize how much he/she cares for you. Identify how you can help your partner; put an immense amount of effort and research on ways you can help or inspire your partner. Self centered-ness obstructs the growth of any relationship and lead to a rift in a relationship that will be the core cause of the end of the relationship sooner or later.

Don’t Hover Around Past Mistakes

Forgiveness is a must to move on with life. If your partner is apologetic about something he did in the past; try to forgive your partner. Make sure that you explicate the situation and make him/her understand that how deeply it hurt you.

Re- Assurance Is Needed In Any Relationship..

Yeah! You need to tell your partner how much you love him/her. Sometimes couples take these gestures for granted which can lead to a pinch of doubt in the mind of the other person. It’s lovely to surprise your partner and say how much you love him/her.

Once you build trust, put every attempt to maintain it. Because once trust is broken it gets very hard to repair the relationship.

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Who Says Women Want To Date Rich Men?

Posted by: Pooja.Brahmi  :  Category: Relationships, Sexuality, dating, self growth



Who Says Women Want Rich Men?

The way Women ponder what Men want in the same way Men contemplate what women want, personally speaking you will never understand in words. You need to be in a relationship to understand what men want. It’s not about getting married to the right person; it’s just matter of reaching to a point where you understand each other’s wants or expectations.

Before you start reading my generalization about what women want, be advised that I can’t speak out for every single woman on earth! I respect and understand the likings or disliking’s of every individual. The core expectations of any relationship whether it’s with your family members, friends or with your partner are love, trust and care. I won’t be talking about these at all!!

Women Look For an Emotional Bond

  • Before a woman start a relationship the one factor that attracts her towards the guy is the way she looks around for him. It’s that emotional bond that will keep her coming back to you.
  • There are little- little things that you can do to make your woman feel special. Sometimes it’s nice to go on a walk and talk about things that matters to her. It can be anything that interests her, it’s important to be a good listener as well as a good participant. Know about her likings, for example if she is into sports then go ahead and join her over the weekend where you can watch her play. Overall, try to have a conversation where she can open up.
  • Surprise her – Pick her up from her office, she would love to see you after a long hectic day.
  • Who doesn’t like to be pampered? – Off course the way to men’s heart is through his stomach but why can’t this statement be also true for women. Find out her favorite dish; cook something for her which she specifically loves.  Lighten up the whole place with candles. And this is it! Just wait to see a smile on her face!
  • Be well dressed – Who doesn’t appreciate and get attracted towards a well – dressed personality? It doesn’t mean that you have to wear a Armani suit to impress her. Stick to simplicity, it will surely impress her.
  • Just Little Expressions – Women love lovely little expressions which are often ignored by men. Talk to her and see what she likes. The key lies in making her feel important and special.
  • Connect through her soul – All of us have something in us that just belongs to us and we are too afraid or reluctant to share it with others. Once you reach out to that side of her, she will be all yours.
  • Don’t rush into the so called “Intimate Mode”- It’s a common perception that men want more physical intimacy than women, but it’s totally wrong. Women also want intimate moments the way men want. Any relationship requires physical intimacy; the only factor that counts is the commitment and emotional bond between the couples. Always remember you need to have an emotional intimacy before you develop a physical intimacy!
  • Respect her dreams – Women are more inclined towards those men who respect their individuality. In today’s life people choose partners based on their profession and earnings. You need to give an equal priority to her career path the way you give to yours. Never criticize her choice of career, encourage her instead. If due to some reason she is struggling in her career, try to inspire her and help her out in her career goals by offering her required assistance.
  • Be confident of the way you are – Women don’t fancy overconfident bravado, a complete show off or an arrogant personality. Women respect the individuality of a man and adore confident men. Be humble of your achievements in life and don’t try to be overbearing!

These are just basic suggestions to impress women and make her fall in love with you. Just wait to see how she will yearn for you.

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I Kind Of Agree With Bill Gates

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Bill Gates doesn’t really like social networking sites – he finds it extremely irrirating!
He states” Everyday he gets over 10,000 add requests on Facebook!!!

The reason I also don’t like social networking sites is not because of the same reason as I am not a big personality!!!! I would prefer mailing my friends or family members over messaging them on social networking sites. I have seen millions of people who are so obsessed with social networking sites like Orkut, Facebook, Myspace, Twitter and so on. What makes these social networking sites so famous?

Some people get on the social networking sites to make new friends and some become a member to contact old friends and others for business networking purposes. Except the second reason the others are quite useless. I have always questioned the credibility of contacting a complete stranger on internet. But I do like one thing i.e to interact with other people to have a debate on topics that interest you. That’s quite interesting to indulge in a conversation where you can share your views on any possible topic

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