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Bill Gates doesn’t really like social networking sites – he finds it extremely irrirating!
He states” Everyday he gets over 10,000 add requests on Facebook!!!

The reason I also don’t like social networking sites is not because of the same reason as I am not a big personality!!!! I would prefer mailing my friends or family members over messaging them on social networking sites. I have seen millions of people who are so obsessed with social networking sites like Orkut, Facebook, Myspace, Twitter and so on. What makes these social networking sites so famous?

Some people get on the social networking sites to make new friends and some become a member to contact old friends and others for business networking purposes. Except the second reason the others are quite useless. I have always questioned the credibility of contacting a complete stranger on internet. But I do like one thing i.e to interact with other people to have a debate on topics that interest you. That’s quite interesting to indulge in a conversation where you can share your views on any possible topic

Whenever I get together with my girlfriends all they crib about is not getting their Mr. Right! Irrespective of thousands of medium we have these days where you have innumerable ways to interact with interesting people. Still not many women get what they really want.

Have you lost hope in finding someone special on online dating sites? I would like to list some of the blunders that women usually make on online dating sites. Boost your success rate considerably by avoiding all these mistakes and choose a right plan to get interesting men for dating.

Are you tired of sitting in front of your computer screen and just dieing to get a message from handsome men? Daily you check your scrap book hoping today you will get some message but to your disappointment no handsome men contacted you so far.
Have you given up?!

Listen to your intuition

If you feel that he is not the right man you are talking to, then don’t ignore your intuition. Whenever you have a slight doubt that the man is hiding something or pretending to be someone he is not then chances are your intuitions are warning you to be safe. Filter your dates and meet only those who genuinely interest you, instead of wasting your time in trying your luck on total strangers. This approach always work in brushing away all the bad dates.

Don’t wait for men to write to you first

Most women believe in the very traditional approach that men approach women for dates. Are you visiting handsome men profiles on online dating and totally drooling over some of them! You do pause for a while but you can’t really make up your mind whether you be supposed to drop a message or not. Women think that if they will approach men first then may be it will give a sign that they are desperate! Mostly women want men to approach them. And it’s a very fact that women feel awkward in approaching men first, no matter how madly they are attracted towards them.

Actually, the truth is men love it when women approach them. So from now onwards if you like some guy’s profile just doesn’t hesitate to send a short text message. Most probably, you will get a reply back and from there on you can take it further!! Just make sure that you upload an interesting profile on dating sites! So don’t waste your time in just waiting for interesting men to get in touch with you first.

Don’t judge them by their profiles .

Come on girls! Generally, women exaggerate their actual height by an inch and lower their weight by at least 30 pounds! Then why it’s an issue if men exaggerate on their height. And how can you forget the very fact that how many women literally tell their real age!! Don’t judge any men before you actually communicate with them for some time period. Don’t form your opinion from the profiles which you browse on online dating sites because the real side only comes out when you actually communicate with them.

Don’t feel ditched!

You interacted with some guy through online dating site and now you plan to meet him. Both of you really had a good time but suddenly he just vanished. And you end up wondering - where you went wrong? Don’t fool yourself by presuming that you are the only one for him. Men also have many choices the same way women have. If you presume that you are the only one he met through online dating then you must be completely wrong.

Don’t rush into meeting men

Once you start to feel a comfort level with him and it’s hardly been a month of knowing each other. You probably end up getting curious to meet him to check the chemistry in real. Don’t rush into it! Research suggests, majority of the women get disappointed after meeting men in real life. You need to remember that online dating requires some screening before you actually make up your mind to meet the person in real. Take enough time to get to know each other through voice chat or text messages. You should at least take 4-5 months of time to know him before you plan to meet him personally. It’s a better choice to meet one genuine man in 6 months instead of 5 pricks in a month!

It is not working the way you thought it wil l

When you enrolled on to the online dating site you perceived it to be an easy dating game ! You have never faced any problem in attracting men in your real life. You are pretty, intelligent and a great company to hang around with. But surprisingly, men who are contacting you on online dating sites are not of your taste. You know there are decent men out there but why are you not being approached by them?!

It’s quite simple. There are hundreds of options for them, in the same way women have. It’s a fact that women usually want to be approached by men!! Don’t hesitate to browse profiles on online dating sites and message those men you find attractive.

Don’t get frustrated too easily

It’s obvious that sometimes on online dating sites you will get emails of men who are stupid, brainless and annoying. Don’t get aggravated, all you have to do is to ignore them. If they still keep on bothering you like an idiot then just avoid them. Don’t waste your time in replying back to them. You can’t eliminate their names from the dating site, they have the right to post messages to anyone they would like to, after all they are also the member of the site like everybody else. Mostly women reply back giving them warnings but you know that it won’t be of any use! As a smart woman all you have to do is to delete the emails you find exasperating and carry on with decent men!

Right approach decides it all

If you think that you don’t get right men on online dating sites as they are not genuine. Then my dear friend your presumption is totally wrong! There are millions of great single men on online dating sites who are handsome, tall, interesting and intelligent. The only factor which counts to attract men on dating sites is your outlook towards them. Your success rate is determined only by the way you carry it forward. You need to plan your approach with the right attitude.

Unrealistic time- line

Sometimes women set unrealistic expectations! If you hope to meet a decent man in a month of you posting your profile on a dating site then it’s impractical. You won’t be getting your soul mate or a decent date in a month or so! Obviously you will be disappointed if you expect to come across your prince charming in a short period of time. In reality we all know that how difficult it is to find soul mates. Don’t just quit - just stick to it for some time period!

So finally, now after reading these online dating tips you know what kind of mistakes you have been committing. From now onwards just avoid these mistakes and considerably increase your success rate on online dating sites.

I wrote this article in April2008 for a blog called Embraceyourlove which was posted on www.Ezinearticles.com.

Why Men Cant Sense It ! : Signs That She Is Interested In Dating You

• It’s a known fact that it’s really hard to figure out what girls really want. It’s even harder to comprehend that what girls really feel. Mostly guys get perplexed in understanding the signs which sometimes girls give.

• Indirectly girls give clear signals that they are interested to date you. But they themselves won’t approach you as they want you to take the very first step. Here we will tell you few signs that she is definitely interested to date you, so consider these signs as an invitation to ask her for a date.

• If she wants to catch up with you whenever she finds some free time from her busy work schedule then she truly admires you. If she always chose you over any other friend to go out with her on the weekends then chances are that she treats you more than a friend. And she wont disappoint you if you want to take the friendship to the another level. It’s clear that she is interested to date you.

• She always flaunts a sweet smile at you. Mind it; girls just don’t always flash their glittering smile to anyone! Notice how does she behaves with you, her body language will give an obvious sign of her feelings towards you. Does she lean on your shoulder while giggling or does she tease with her soft touch on your shoulders or arms. Apparently, you should not wait just go ahead and ask her on a date. She is certainly interested to date you.

• She has given you a sweet nickname. Indeed she is crazy for you! And if anyone calls you from the same nick name she doesn’t like it! The chances of you hearing a yes is really high in this case. Man you are taken! She is surely interested to date you.

• If she suddenly starts discussing about her ex boy friend and tells you that she is over it. This could be the sign that now she wants you to be part of her life and making you clear that she has no feelings left for her ex boy friend. Now she is ready to move on and interested to date you.

• If she always laughs on your stupid jokes and you take pride in considering yourself for a stand up comedian role! You know for the fact that nobody appreciates your sense of humor the way she always does! Take this sign as a welcoming signal that she is really interested to date you.

• She never misses a chance to check you out. If you always notice her looking at you then don’t dismiss this as a coincidence. She is undoubtedly interested to date you. Don’t miss an opportunity to give her a dazzling smile to show her that you like her. Don’t forget to make a move on her!

• If she compliments you saying that you are every girls dream true and any girl would like to have a man like you. It’s a good chance to try your luck on her; as she adores you. Chances are that she is really interested to date you.

• She always wants to be with you, be it you going for a lunch or you hanging around wit your friends. She makes sure that she sits right next to you. It’s a definite clue that your presence is cherished by her and she wants to get closer to you. Don’t ignore this clear sign as it for sure that she is interested to date you.

• Whenever she is with you she feels conscious of her appearance. Don’t forget to tell her that she looks really gorgeous and then see the glow on her face! She loves to be admired by you.

• She makes every possible excuse to hang around with you. She seeks help from you pretending that she can’t do it on her own. Most probably, she wants to spend more time with you and interested to date you. Just slide a note on to her bag asking her out. She will be all yours!

• She gives you more importance over anybody else. She never refuse any favors for you, she even goes out of the way to help you. She never says no to you! So now what other signal you require you won’t get to ear no this time too! Ask her out! She is unquestionably interested to date you.

• She always tells her friend that she finds you adorable. It’s a trick to let you know indirectly through her friends because she herself fees hesitant to confess her feelings towards you. It’s an obvious hint that she is interested to date you.

• An eye contact plays an important role in comprehending the feelings of a woman. If she pays attention to you and gives her wholeheartedly attention it’s a further indication that she is interested to date you. If often you observe her looking at your lips then it’s absolutely a seduction sign. Guys don’t miss an opportunity just ask her out for a date.

• Once you have realized all the signs that she is interested to date you. Give her a call saying let’s go out for a dinner “just two of us”. Compliment her and appreciate her kindness.

• Thank her for everything she has done for you so far and how she has been there for you in all the rough times. Say “you have strong feelings towards her” and just wait for her reaction. Most probably her reaction will be positive and she will be overwhelmed after realizing that you really like her. Needless to mention - her answer will be yes.

If she says a big YES to go on a date then ask her where she wants to go out. You can plan a surprise her also by taking her out to her favorite place (just don’t disclose it in advance).

Things to take care of before going on a date:

• Look decent, don’t overdress! A big no to a formal outfit, instead dress casually. A nice pair of jeans and a soothing color t- shirt works always!

• Who likes smelling creatures?! Always smell nice especially when you are around her! Put on a light deodorant but a no to any kind of strong perfume

• Be yourself don’t act over smart otherwise she will have a clear idea that you are trying too hard to impress her.

• Be confident of yourself. Sometimes when you are very excited to meet someone special then it’s natural to feel nervous. Therefore, carry yourself in a relaxed way instead of revealing that you are bit nervous as it’s your first date with her!

• Greet her nicely as it says a lot about the person so set a pleasant precedent of what you really are.

• Be exceptionally nice and respect her in every way. This is the foremost important factor in impressing girls; otherwise you don’t have a chance to get a date!

• Know the power of an eye contact. Give your total attention to her instead of checking out other girls!

Are you desperately wondering how to ask her on a date?

There are number of questions hovering in your mind like:

• What if she says no to me!

• May be I should wait for some time before making a move on her.

• What if some another guy approaches her. Then won’t it be too late for me.

• What if she just treats me like a friend. Will she be offended?

• All of these doubts and fears just trap your mind and stop you to ask her on a date. Never allow your fear to take over your life. You need to come out of the dilemma and take a step forward. We will help you to boost confidence in yourself instead of entrapping yourself with all the insecurities.

• If you are someone who has a serious personality then your chances are really low!!! Always remember easy going people who know how to have fun have more choices than those people who are just isolated. Studies suggest that guys with good sense of humor have far more chances to get dates.

• Don’t ask her out in front of other people, she may feel uncomfortable. Also, be clear that you genuinely like the girl before you ask her on a date. Don’t date her just because she is hot or popular in your college.

• You should be clear about your feelings for her before you ask her out on a date.
• Make sure that she is single. If she recently broke off with her boy friend then try to figure out whether she is over it or still depressed about her past relationship.

• Never ask your friends to do it for you, no matter how tactful your friends are. Girls really don’t like hearing - Oh hey I have a message for you from (So and so guy) that he would like to date you!!! It obviously shows that the guy don’t have enough confidence to approach the girl directly.

• Whenever you want to approach her choose the right time and the right place makes a whole difference. If the girl is new to you and you don’t know much about her then don’t directly ask her for a date. It certainly requires an extra effort first to know her a bit. Give her a nice compliment but don’t exaggerate! Some girls don’t like to be flattered so better to choose a simple approach. Some girls don’t like “sexy” “hot” labels but others take it as a compliment.

• Just make sure that you don’t offend her by complimenting something which she doesn’t take it in the right spirit. It’s advisable to stick to fine compliments which will surely work. Like you look “stunning” “gorgeous” “beautiful” etc. Guys never use the same boring cheesy lines.

• Talk with her and strike an interesting conversation to make her attracted towards you. Talk about her interests and make sure you act like a gentlemen. Don’t feel nervous in her company if you are stuttering or sweating then it’s a clear sign that you are not comfortable with her.

• If still you think you are not ready to ask her out on a date then invite her for any fun activity with your friends. Dull activities like household stuff shopping should never be considered! Think of more exhilarating activities like enjoying any of her favorite sports. After you have shared enough time and now you think it’s an appropriate time to ask her on a date.

• Now you need to find the right time and the right place to ask her on a date. You can simply say this with a smile “Hey I am going out this weekend on fishing I was wondering if you would like to join me. I am sure you will have lot of fun”

• To avoid any kind of hesitation think of a subject beforehand. If you either of you think that you won’t be comfortable to go on a date together then go for double dating. It actually can relieve some pressure from both of you.

• You can ask her to join you to some party or may be an evening with friends just lounging around would a good idea. Once you are comfortable with her you can ask her.

• “I really liked your company so I was wondering if you want join me for a cup of coffee” It will possibly work. If you are nervous to ask her on a date then don’t be anxious some girls really find it cute.
• The foremost point to consider before asking girls on a date is first to ask yourself that do you think that she is attracted towards you. Be her friend first before approaching her for a date. Once she starts sharing a comfort level with you, it will increase your chances of her saying yes. So guys don’t wait just win her heart and sweep her off her feet!