Do You Trust Him? – Trust Issues In Relationships

Trust issues in relationships is a very common problem in relationships; after all trust is a foundation of any relationship. Do you trust him? Do you trust her? Relationship is in trouble if your answer to this is No. Trust issues in a relationship doesn’t let the relationship grow. On the other hand trust in a relationship will let you come closer by creating a safe environment around you where you are assured that you will never be hurt.

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you”

Friedrich Nietzsche quotes

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The Need Of Any Relationship Is…

No relationship on this earth can survive without “Trust”, in its absence any relationship is “hollow” and can never last for a long time. Majority of break-ups, relationship problems or differences are because of “Trust Issues”, that’s why in today’s time the rate of divorces is increasing at a drastic pace.

Do You Trust Him? -  Trust is an utmost important pillar of any relationship, before you start the reviving process of trusting yourself first and to become trustworthy you need to tell yourself that you should not be afraid of abiding to the journey of being honest and transparent.

Your Actions  Should Match Your Words...

All I can say from my personal experience is you need to trust yourself first before you expect others to trust you. In a relationship one of the main reasons why couples face relationship problems is when their actions don’t match to their words (commitments). If you don’t make an attempt to analyze your actions then your relationship will deteriorate day by day.

How priorities become different…

The phases of life demand a change in you as a person, from the very time you start dating your partner to getting married and then having kids. Every stage of life stipulates different responsibilities from your side to fulfill. Hence, your behavior, actions and nature ought to change. Usually couples face differences because they are not able to spend quality time together and sometimes you feel left out! Even during those times you should talk to your partner of what you are experiencing and how both of you can work towards taking out some time together. Be patient of the current circumstances and build trust towards each other and affirm your commitment towards the relationship.


Let’s just face it – “We all do Silly Things”

Don’t we all agree that all relationships have a pinch of chaos and off course love for each other? If sometimes you end up doing silly things that hurt you partner. Instead of saying “you didn’t mean it” Just accept your mistake and move on. If you think your actions or words have hurt your partner intentionally or unintentionally then you should work out your relationship by building trust. Try to understand the feelings of your partner, and put her/him at your place and then analyze the whole situation.

Oh Honey I love you so much But…

But I don’t get the time to help you with the kids, I would love to help you but I really don’t like offer you a helping hand to do household work and Yes I love to cook but I prefer your cooked food! Haaaaaa

Just 3 words of love you “I love you” are overused!!! If you don’t care about your partner by showing little – little gestures then your love goes right into the drain. Don’t make your partner “suspect” or “question” your love. Love is not just about sharing nice moments or cuddling on the bed. It’s about making each other’s life easier and happy. In the journey of life you need to make an effort to realize how you can comfort your partner.

When you get into a relationship, there are some uncomfortable past incidents which couples usually feel hesitant to share; may be because of the fear of losing someone. But if you demand the full disclosure from your partner demands then you should be prepared to listen to the truth and accept it. This way you build trust with your partner, hence no blaming game or accusation after that whatsoever!

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Always Remember There Is Nothing Called Small Lies

Sometimes, couples think to themselves that it’s just a trivial thing they are lying about. This will put your partner in a position where he/she will suspect you for everything possible that is coming out of your mouth. So watch out! You are most likely to be seen as someone who can’t be trusted by your partner.

Most Importantly Trust Your Heart

Without love for your partner, you can never thrive to build trust. Be very sure of what you want, if you want someone badly you will have a fear of losing them. The only key to have a healthy and everlasting love for each other is to build the foundation of your relationship by strengthening Trust in your relationship.

Be Sensitive

Be sensitive towards The Dreams of Your Partner. In today’s time both the partners are striving to be successful in their respective careers. Don’t just focus on your individual professional goals, guide or understand your partner in his/her dreams. In the time of need the support system towards your partner will make him/her realize how much he/she cares for you. Identify how you can help your partner; put an immense amount of effort and research on ways you can help or inspire your partner. Self centered-ness obstructs the growth of any relationship and lead to a rift in a relationship that will be the core cause of the end of the relationship sooner or later.

Don’t Hover Around Past Mistakes

Forgiveness is a must to move on with life. If your partner is apologetic about something he did in the past; try to forgive your partner. Make sure that you explicate the situation and make him/her understand that how deeply it hurt you.

Re- Assurance Is Needed In Any Relationship..

Yeah! You need to tell your partner how much you love him/her. Sometimes couples take these gestures for granted which can lead to a pinch of doubt in the mind of the other person. It’s lovely to surprise your partner and say how much you love him/her.

Once you build trust, put every attempt to maintain it. Because once trust is broken it gets very hard to repair the relationship.

Before you start reading my generalization about what women want, be advised that I can’t speak out for every single woman on earth! I respect and understand the likings or disliking’s of every individual. The core expectations of any relationship whether it’s with your family members, friends or with your partner are love, trust and care. I won’t be talking about these at all!!
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These are just basic suggestions to impress women and make her fall in love with you. Just wait to see how she will yearn for you.

Bill Gates doesn’t really like social networking sites – he finds it extremely irrirating!
He states” Everyday he gets over 10,000 add requests on Facebook!!!

The reason I also don’t like social networking sites is not because of the same reason as I am not a big personality!!!! I would prefer mailing my friends or family members over messaging them on social networking sites. I have seen millions of people who are so obsessed with social networking sites like Orkut, Facebook, Myspace, Twitter and so on. What makes these social networking sites so famous?

Some people get on the social networking sites to make new friends and some become a member to contact old friends and others for business networking purposes. Except the second reason the others are quite useless. I have always questioned the credibility of contacting a complete stranger on internet. But I do like one thing i.e to interact with other people to have a debate on topics that interest you. That’s quite interesting to indulge in a conversation where you can share your views on any possible topic

Whenever I get together with my girlfriends all they crib about is not getting their Mr. Right! Irrespective of thousands of medium we have these days where you have innumerable ways to interact with interesting people. Still not many women get what they really want.

Have you lost hope in finding someone special on online dating sites? I would like to list some of the blunders that women usually make on online dating sites. Boost your success rate considerably by avoiding all these mistakes and choose a right plan to get interesting men for dating.

Are you tired of sitting in front of your computer screen and just dieing to get a message from handsome men? Daily you check your scrap book hoping today you will get some message but to your disappointment no handsome men contacted you so far.
Have you given up?!

Listen to your intuition

If you feel that he is not the right man you are talking to, then don’t ignore your intuition. Whenever you have a slight doubt that the man is hiding something or pretending to be someone he is not then chances are your intuitions are warning you to be safe. Filter your dates and meet only those who genuinely interest you, instead of wasting your time in trying your luck on total strangers. This approach always work in brushing away all the bad dates.

Don’t wait for men to write to you first

Most women believe in the very traditional approach that men approach women for dates. Are you visiting handsome men profiles on online dating and totally drooling over some of them! You do pause for a while but you can’t really make up your mind whether you be supposed to drop a message or not. Women think that if they will approach men first then may be it will give a sign that they are desperate! Mostly women want men to approach them. And it’s a very fact that women feel awkward in approaching men first, no matter how madly they are attracted towards them.

Actually, the truth is men love it when women approach them. So from now onwards if you like some guy’s profile just doesn’t hesitate to send a short text message. Most probably, you will get a reply back and from there on you can take it further!! Just make sure that you upload an interesting profile on dating sites! So don’t waste your time in just waiting for interesting men to get in touch with you first.

Don’t judge them by their profiles .

Come on girls! Generally, women exaggerate their actual height by an inch and lower their weight by at least 30 pounds! Then why it’s an issue if men exaggerate on their height. And how can you forget the very fact that how many women literally tell their real age!! Don’t judge any men before you actually communicate with them for some time period. Don’t form your opinion from the profiles which you browse on online dating sites because the real side only comes out when you actually communicate with them.

Don’t feel ditched!

You interacted with some guy through online dating site and now you plan to meet him. Both of you really had a good time but suddenly he just vanished. And you end up wondering – where you went wrong? Don’t fool yourself by presuming that you are the only one for him. Men also have many choices the same way women have. If you presume that you are the only one he met through online dating then you must be completely wrong.

Don’t rush into meeting men

Once you start to feel a comfort level with him and it’s hardly been a month of knowing each other. You probably end up getting curious to meet him to check the chemistry in real. Don’t rush into it! Research suggests, majority of the women get disappointed after meeting men in real life. You need to remember that online dating requires some screening before you actually make up your mind to meet the person in real. Take enough time to get to know each other through voice chat or text messages. You should at least take 4-5 months of time to know him before you plan to meet him personally. It’s a better choice to meet one genuine man in 6 months instead of 5 pricks in a month!

It is not working the way you thought it wil l

When you enrolled on to the online dating site you perceived it to be an easy dating game ! You have never faced any problem in attracting men in your real life. You are pretty, intelligent and a great company to hang around with. But surprisingly, men who are contacting you on online dating sites are not of your taste. You know there are decent men out there but why are you not being approached by them?!

It’s quite simple. There are hundreds of options for them, in the same way women have. It’s a fact that women usually want to be approached by men!! Don’t hesitate to browse profiles on online dating sites and message those men you find attractive.

Don’t get frustrated too easily

It’s obvious that sometimes on online dating sites you will get emails of men who are stupid, brainless and annoying. Don’t get aggravated, all you have to do is to ignore them. If they still keep on bothering you like an idiot then just avoid them. Don’t waste your time in replying back to them. You can’t eliminate their names from the dating site, they have the right to post messages to anyone they would like to, after all they are also the member of the site like everybody else. Mostly women reply back giving them warnings but you know that it won’t be of any use! As a smart woman all you have to do is to delete the emails you find exasperating and carry on with decent men!

Right approach decides it all

If you think that you don’t get right men on online dating sites as they are not genuine. Then my dear friend your presumption is totally wrong! There are millions of great single men on online dating sites who are handsome, tall, interesting and intelligent. The only factor which counts to attract men on dating sites is your outlook towards them. Your success rate is determined only by the way you carry it forward. You need to plan your approach with the right attitude.

Unrealistic time- line

Sometimes women set unrealistic expectations! If you hope to meet a decent man in a month of you posting your profile on a dating site then it’s impractical. You won’t be getting your soul mate or a decent date in a month or so! Obviously you will be disappointed if you expect to come across your prince charming in a short period of time. In reality we all know that how difficult it is to find soul mates. Don’t just quit – just stick to it for some time period!

So finally, now after reading these online dating tips you know what kind of mistakes you have been committing. From now onwards just avoid these mistakes and considerably increase your success rate on online dating sites.

I wrote this article in April2008 for a blog called Embraceyourlove which was posted on www.Ezinearticles.com.

Hubby Wishing you a very happy birthday.


Do you want to win your husband’s heart then birthday love letters seem a perfect idea.

A love letter to my husband on his birthday – Honey I am feeling too embarrassed to even start! Because I really don’t know how to write a love letter! People say Love letters to husband can do the trick of sparking the love in your marriage. I hope these Love letters to my husband will ignite his love for me; if you ever realize then you will notice how we engross ourselves in our day to day life that we forget to express our love. Handwritten Love letters for husband will make him yearn for you; personally speaking love letters for my husband will surely make him feel my never dieing love for him. This love letter to my husband is again one of the ways where I open up my heart to him.

It will sound funny – I searched hundreds of websites and read the collection of love letters but nothing sound perfect to me. I don’t want to sound too corny or too boring here.. I just want to pour out my feelings through simple words.

• We have been together for so many years and have celebrated many memorable occasions together. When I look back and see the most romantic and cherished moments it was all because of you. You always say that I don’t express my love in words. With time I have noticed that I do feel shy in opening up my heart to you. I remember the first love letter you had written to me when I went to Bangkok.

Frankly speaking I’m bit reluctant to write all this because I’m not sure if I will get it right or not.. As it’s your birthday so I want everything to be just perfect.

I will start by expressing the one thing that I cherish the most with you is curling up with you on the bed before sleeping, feeling the warmth of your skin by resting my head on your shoulder and you kissing me on my head and lips! Every morning after waking up the way you hold me tightly and we pulling up the blanket over our head and whispering things to each other. Our toes tenderly touching each others toes underneath the blanket! It’s so fulfilling and amazing that how we have been doing this every day for years and still do it – still need it badly.

Walking down the street wrapping my hands around your hands – feeling the breeze fiddling with my hair- Ah I absolutely love it. Does that sound like typically Yash Chopra’s romantic movies scripts!!

• I still feel your first kiss when we were coming from Etopia ( though I always complain that how dare you kiss me when I was sleeping!!! but without any doubt that was the most cherished kiss of my entire life) You always express your love openly but I have always struggled to do that. It’s been years and years of knowing each other and even now our relationship feels so fresh, as if we are still dating! I think the real romance starts after getting married when you actually get to spend quality time together.

• Every morning – Every night you make me feel loved with your touch and warmth. Just your way of holding my face and looking into my eyes says it all. It makes me feel blessed when every friend of mine tells me how lucky I am to have you in my life as my soul mate. Once when I was in college my friend told me after 2 years of any marriage the romance goes away. I actually believed her because I had seen many couples totally occupied in their careers and setting financial goals that they tend to drift apart slowly. But with you it’s been years and years – with time we have become One. You know how hard it gets to even sleep without you, forget about staying away from you.

• We have been by each others side in all the rough situations all through the time. You remember the first romantic song that you sung to me – Jab koi baat bigad jaye Jab koi mushkil pad jaye Tum dena sath mera o humnavawaz. It’s so fulfilling to see how both of us have supported each other at times when we needed each other the most. The real test of any relationship comes when you see someone you loved the most by your side. It’s so gratifying how both of us value the commitment towards our relationship.

• We all know relationships are not easy it requires a lot of sacrifices, compromises, care and time. Every thing falls on its place when you have someone who loves you. This time when I was alone for few days without you in India I missed you the most. I miss Little Little moments about living with you.

• Your presence around me in the house, when I cook you hugging me from the back, opening the door for you every evening and giving you a kiss, making coffe for you, going out for movies together, deciding on which restaurant to go, talking about politics, sports!!, watching Chelsea play at our favorite place, you making me sit on your lap like your baby and swinging me around, you quizzing me about music.

•You making your top 10 favorite band every month and signing it to make a record, lounging around and having a cup of coffe and talking about life in general, playing loud music in the car and singing together and how can I forget our crazy way of screaming competition, it’s so sweet how we dance daily for few minutes ( this time when I was in India I replaced you with gunna) Remember the way you roll me around and then make me bend … gunna literally enjoyed that style of dancing.

•It feels nice to be with you all the time. Wherever you go you make sure that I am with you. I have seen so many guys going out alone leaving their wives or girl friends alone but you are so unlike them. I always tell mummy that how my life changed for good after meeting you. Before knowing you I didn’t know jack about jack! You taught me so many things that brought confidence in me. The kind of respect you give it to me in front of your friends, clients, family and colleagues is so gratifying.

• Do you have a magic stick!! How you win everyone’s heart? Whether it’s my friends, my relatives or a complete stranger on the road you just gel with anyone. I just can’t seem to get this art of yours! It’s so amazing how easily you can bring a smile on anybody’s face within minutes. Teach me !!!!!! Some people say that when you love someone you don’t change the other person. But I completely disagree with it.

• When you love someone special you are willing to change anything to bring a smile on your love’s face. I am glad we respect each other’s individuality and at the same time we go out of way to make each other feel special in every possible way.

• Thanks for every effort you make to bring a smile on my face.
• Thanks for all the crazy things you do to make me laugh.
• Thanks for doing so much hard work to make our future secured.
• Thanks for all the love you have for my parents that they feel proud to have you as their son.
• Thanks for playing with gunna as you know what she means to me.
• Thanks for caressing me every night like a little child and making me go to sleep.
• Thanks for every day you say how much you love me .
• Thanks for all the little little lovely surprises you give me all the time even after all these years.
• Thanks for respecting me and my individuality and giving me enough freedom to do whatever I want.
• Thanks for cooking delicious food, you are a great chef!!!!!
• Thanks for all those hugs and kisses you do all the time.
• Thanks for learning badminton for me and beating all those people who were overconfident.
• Thanks for being protective towards me at every step.
• And thanks for letting me beat all those guys who tease girls!!!!!
• Thanks for understanding and appreciating how strongly I feel about helping needy people.
• Thanks for going to Vaishnodevi barefooted so many times and staying awake and watching over me so that I could sleep.
• Thanks for reading my blog and posting your comments.
• Thanks for putting your hand on my head whenever you pray. It makes me feel loved and cared.
• Thanks for always being committed to our love when things were tough.
• Thanks for your faith and loyalty towards our love to make the relationship stronger by each passing day.

The only complain I have with you is why didn’t you meet me long time back. We have missed so many years from our lives.

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A Sensual Love Letter, I Miss You Love Letter

This romantic letter my husband wrote for me – I love you wife – A Love letter to my sweetheart

Sample Love Notes To Your Love

A Collection of love notes that will add a new spice to your life. We have shared some of the love notes sample and we will keep on adding more. (In order to know how to write a love note all you need to do is to pour out your feelings towards your love. Sometimes little expressions make you feel loved!

How To Write A Love Letter To Your Sweetheart

I could never imagine myself helping lovers on how to write a love letter? Many years ago when I just started dating I wanted to write a love letter to my love. I went on internet and searched samples of love letters to your love; even after reading over 100 sample of love letters still I couldn’t even write 3 liner love letter to my boyfriend. You need to be in love to write a love letter; no tips on how to write a love letter will help you if you are not in love.

I Love You Letter (I Miss You Love Letter)

Are you away from your sweetheart ? I miss you love letter will let you pour out your feelings and your love towards your sweetheart. Do you want to know how to write a love letter? Personally speaking, I don’t need a reason to write a I love you letter to my sweetheart. Always remember the best love letter can only be expressed through your heart; you can’t learn it or copy it from any resource you get to see like “Top 100 love letters sample”.

A Sensual Love Letter, I Miss You Love Letter

A Sensual Love Letter – I Love You Letter

Handwritten Sensual love letters do wonders to evoke the steamy passion. Each one of us have desired to write a Sensual letter to your sweetheart, husband, wife or your lover. Am I Right? But not many of us know how to write a sensual love letter? Sensual love letters stir up the intimacy in your partner. If you are also thinking of writing a sensual letter for the first time then read some sensual love letters samples.

A sensual letter keeps the blaze in your relationship alive, then why not add that extra spark to your relationship? Whether you are thinking of evoking the romance in your marriage or want to seduce your love; writing a sensual letter will perfectly fill in that place of that missing romance in your relationship.

There are a few important tips to write a Sensual love letter; the most important factor is to make the letter sound seductive not cheap or vulgar! Moreover, before you begin to create a sensual semblance it’s imperative to express your emotional affection with your partner. Tell him how much you are blessed to have him, convey your inner most love for him.

Goodbye My Love – A Goodbye Letter

A Goodbye Love Letter

A goodbye letter that I created for my sweetheart after our relationship went through breakup. There are some goodbye letters that reunite lovers, though goodbye love letters are meant to have a closure. There are some goodbye letters that reunite lovers, though goodbye love letters are meant to have a closure.

Having said that research suggests that a well written and thoughtful goodbye love letter can drive your ex boy friend or your ex girl friend drive back to your arms; whether it’s a goodbye letter to boyfriend or girlfriend just make sure you pour out your undying love in the letter. Most importantly love letters where you say goodbye should never be bitter ( no blaming game).

Writing A Valentine Day Love Letter

Express your deepest emotion with a Valentine day letter , read letters for Valentine day; after all we all know that Valentine day is coming just around the corner. So are you thinking of writing a valentine love letter? Love letters straight from your heart has the power to entice the dying love, igniting a passion and making that someone special feel loved and cared. Find free Sample of Valentine Day Love Letters that will help you to pour out your love in the most loving and sophisticated way. Love letters for valentine day can be decorated with glitters, some kissing stickers and don’t forget to paste a picture which truly signifies and depicts the chemistry you share with your love.