Secrets Of Success Lies In Your Marriage


Every single person wants to know the key to success, little do we know that there are no secrets of success. You just need to contemplate the strategies of success; believe me or dismiss me but most of it depends upon the successful relationships we form in our personal lives.

It won’t be wrong if we say that – All of us have endured letdowns, breakups, depression and low self esteem in our lives. These are just one of the few distressing times that leave you emotionally hurt. Some people continuously endeavor in life and are indeterminate of reasons of their failures in life.

I myself have experienced various ups and downs in my life; during those times you tend to rummage for someone with whom you can share your insecurities and negativity. Who can be a better person to understand you than your “life partner”?



Have you discovered someone with whom you can share your darkest side and in return you are quite destined that you won’t be misjudged by your partner. The sad reality of our society is that not many people marry the right person, typically most of the marriages end in “Divorce” You won’t be stunned to see the figures doubling in the next coming years.

Basically, what’s the reason – Why do relationships fail? Do we rush into commitments or we get captivated towards an outer beauty more than inner beauty of the person.

Before you chose to get married with the right person, you need to apprehend the true meaning of “institution of marriage” The main decision lies in choosing the right person who knows how to honor relationships.

Relationships Are Made In Heaven But Are Developed On Earth

God may bless you with a partner that you have dreamed of, but you need to work on the relationship. When you experience struggling times in a relationship you need to accept it as an opportunity to understand your partner and work as a team in the relationship. Each one of us are going through challenging times in our day to day life i.e career struggle or financial problems.

It’s natural to behave differently when you are going through tough times. This is when your partner should realize the outside hindering factors that are disturbing you. If your partner realizes the reason of your depressing state of mind and can be your friend with whom you can talk to; then nothing can be more fulfilling then that!

You need to accept the challenges of life, because this is called “LIVING” And when you have an understanding partner who shares your life in any kind of circumstances then you can surely excel in life.

So now you know how to know whether you have the right person in your life or not.

A Love Letter To My Wife – Ours is a Stormy Kind of Love


An Ode to My Wife

love letters

Honey It’s been a long time when I last wrote a love letter to you. I have written at least 100 love letters to you and you have written just 1 ! You always say you don’t know how to write a love letter and I Say at least say it how much you love me.

Whole Lotta Love duh duh duh!
Where do I begin,,, she has been there for me like no one else has. She is the mother to my child, pink to my black, smile to my frown, white light pointing the way forward in darkness, heaven sent, fire and ice, the tempest, wild beauty, untamed heart, Emilia to my Iago (except that she helps me to become a better man), the eccentric sportsmen, creator of the “piyo”, rebellious anti-romantic, lady for the poor, mama’s girl, the German Sheppard lover, from innocent to naughty, from seductive voice to conservative libertine!

She lift my days and light my nights, yet she can kill you with a smile or with a deft touch, an ocean of incoherent thoughts for me to find my way to her promise land. A promise land in pink and white, where she he is running on green grass making heads turn as an aura passes them by. The love for sea food, newly acquired taste in Guinness and Newcastle ale tells a tale a girl wanting to be much more than her present.

She comes from bright land of wisdom, innocence and peace. She has unknowingly kissed chaos; she did not know what was coming, she was tricked into believing only the good and not the bad. She cried foul but took the punches in her stride, giving her strength to her man. Standing by her man! Casting a spell of purity and magic, protecting him from betrayal and thoughts that are tragic.

She did not realize but she has crossed the chaos, the flooding river, yet she feels lost in her own promise land. Did she really want it to start with? A little tired of waiting for the next big wave, she has started to create her own, ushered in by a born-again man, they come together in the most needful hour, they are the same. She needs to believe in him more, he needs to give her more. She will win her actual promise land, her freedom from confused thoughts and negative vibes! She will triumph over adversity only if she BELIEVES in herself and her old new man!

Don’t Forget!

The first kiss on the Ride back home, to Delhi haat, outside Dayal mansion, Bangkok boat ride, Parikrama parikrama, Paul McCartney rain and clutching of hand to go home and the smile when he came on to sing, the FA cup final, Momo, 9-1 baddy thrashing at amby (felt really good huh!), slippers in -21, O’briens, Mister chef, corono drinking and sleeping, champagne bottle in 5 minutes, loving breezer, the test in bath room and screaming, joshu’s heart beat, Oscar performances (how can I miss), navel revealing rebel to you know who?, rolling stones is a …….. , the window at krasnorminsk, cozy home in 7 days, endless relatives, the poise at lunch with Ukrainians, Goa train ride, guarding you in Jammu, this is where your humor lies, the shouts at Centaur, the naan at Centaur, Amitabh’s story on the drive home, so many stories! Your first Paypal sal! I remember! The new opportunities which you brought in for me. Your hand in my destiny, from Dubai to Kiev.

So remember Wifey, even if I “think” I am the brains of the outfit, you are the soul of the outfit, the guiding light and the destiny of the outfit. If you want me to get Jake, bring Jake to me! Only you can! Just ask God! As I will ask for you to start and achieve your destiny! (I think it is business…)

From Ankhiyon Ke Jharokhon to Whole Lotta Love! Darling your journey has begun! So forget about what’s been, embrace your future, your love, your Joshu, your man! Fall in Love again with me! I still love you after all these years! And even though you don’t think I do! My silly sassy girl – I DO!!! I love you like crazy! There never could be a better moment than THIS ONE!

So in the words of our Bono

“All the promises we make from the cradle to grave, when all I want is you”

5 Shocking Incidents When I was Pregnant


Pregnancy time is surely the most wonderful time I have ever experienced in my life. The feeling of a life inside you gives you an overwhelming feeling and at the same time it makes you feel apprehensive about your future (the delivery time, health of your baby and would you be able to be a great mom). Nevertheless, I loved every sec of feeling my son’s kicks to seeing him for the first time.

The minute the doctor brought him to me and touched his skin against my cheeks the first thing that I said was “I Love You”
One of the signs of pregnancy that every woman face is the “weakness” “tiredness”; especially in the last few months of pregnancy when your baby weight is increasing at a faster pace. Any normal person can understand how challenging the pregnancy can be. But you will find some absolutely unbearable people who have no sense of understanding.

During the time I was pregnant I used to feel weak and tired, not to mention my too much weight gain that made things worse for me (thanks to my bad eating habit).
I came to my home town in the last months of my pregnancy before that I was in “Kiev”. Like everybody else you want to be with your mom in the last months of pregnancy. As I am very close to my mom so I intentionally made a decision of joining mom.
But But But

There were some incidents that shook me…. So today I am going to uncover all

  • One day I went to a university where I wanted to fill some forms to enroll myself in some programme. The guy who was distributing the forms was not around.. two chairs were lying there.. so I sat on one chair as I was literally tired waiting for the guy. The guy came and said “ get up” I gave a disgusting look and looked at the other chair kept right next to him.. I stood up anyway – I was amazed to see what I saw afterward. He sat on one chair and put his legs on the other one. (Did I forget to mention I was 9 months pregnant then?)
  • I was crossing the main road and it was a green light all of a sudden one speeding car passed by me with the full music on .. I thought to myself was he blind? There was a difference of fraction of seconds otherwise I would have ………….
  • Once I was standing in a queue was a long long queue but nobody proposed to help me.

  • I was in Mc donalds waiting for my husband for over half n hour, it was all full but nobody bothered to offer me a seat to sit down..
  • And this incident was after “my son” “joshu” was born. He was having a fever so I took him to the nearest hospital, I was all alone at home so couldn’t take him in a car as he can’t sit on his own. So I took a riki; reached the hospital quite comfortably but when I came out of the hospital it was raining like “cats and dogs”. I was not having an umbrella with me as I didn’t expect the weather to be like that. So I was struggling to cover joshu with whatever I could. After waiting for some time I got a rikshaw the minute I sat on it he saw some lady and asked her where are you going. She said “xyz” place the rikshaw guy looked at me and asked me to get down because he got the passenger who could give him more money… While my house was quite near to the hospital. I couldn’t believe that he actually was asking me to get down seeing my son drenched badly in rain.. I controlled myself though I was on the brink of breaking down..

On the other hand when I was out of India wherever I went I got a special treatment in every possible way; from kids to old people everybody helped me, gave me a way and even went out of the way to do anything possible to offer me comfort.
I feel sad to say if it was not for my parents I wouldn’t have chosen “Delhi” to spend my “pregnancy period” .

Story Of Four Wives


Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives.

He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of
delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms.
However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.

He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with
him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her, and she would help him get through the
difficult times.

The King’s 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining his
wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love the first wife. Although she loved him deeply,
he hardly took notice of her !

One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious life and
wondered, “I now have four wives with me, but when I die, I’ll be all alone.”

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and
showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”
“No way!”, replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word. Her answer cut like a
sharp knife right into his heart.

The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, “I have loved you all my life. Now that I’m dying,
will you follow me and keep me company?” “No!”, replied the 3rd wife. “Life is too good!
When you die, I’m going to remarry!”

His heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, “I have always turned to you for help and you’ve always been there for me.
When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!”, replied the 2nd wife. “At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave” Her answer struck him like a bolt of lightning, and the King was devastated.

Then a voice called out: “I’ll go with you. I’ll follow you no matter where you go.”

The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was very skinny as she suffered from malnutrition and neglect.  Greatly grieved, the King said, “I should have taken  much better care of you when I had the chance!”

In truth, we all have the 4 wives in our lives:

Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in  making it look good,
it will leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will l all go to others.

Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest
they can stay by us is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our Soul.  Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.
However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go.

Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of us that will follow us to the
throne of God and continue with us throughout Eternity.

On Your Mark Get Set – GO


laughing baby

Jesusss! My google site ranking has gone down completely! It SUX big time. Anyway, I pretty much predicted it because I have been out of action for so many days rather months. My son is keeping me far too busy DAY and NIGHT. I don’t even get time to comb my hair!!!!!! OH MY MY – Never knew motherhood brings so much responsibility. Everybody is suggesting me to keep a nanny for my baby who can help me a bit, but I am not interested at all. I want to do everything on my own, what’s the fun in sharing your responsibility as a mother. I would hate to share my time with my son with an outsider. huh

cute baby

I have been reading baby development books to know what my baby will be doing next!

His smile drives away my tiredness.. no matter how tired I am but the minute I talk to him my voice automatically becomes Lively! When I used to see babies smiling I would find them cute.. but when your own baby smiles he just takes your breath awayJ

Posting his recent picture where he has an apple face!