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I was reading about post pregnancy weight loss articles and came across an article which talks about post pregnancy depression . It was quite interesting to read how and why post pregnancy depression happens . The startling fact suggests that a major percentage of new mothers go through some or the other kind of post pregnancy depression.

During my pregnancy I used to wonder why any new mom would feel depressed after delivering a baby.

Some of the main reasons of post pregnancy depression are exhaustion involved in taking care of the newborn.

Solution :- Seek help of someone who cares for you, like your close friends or your family members. You can even ask your parents or close friends to join you for the first few days.

The factor that leads to exhaustion is sleep deprivation, lack of energy to cope with an extensive daily care routine of the new born.

Solution :- Try to teach your hubby how to take care of the baby, so that you can rest for few hours at night while he takes care of the baby.

Some new moms also feel in secured of taking a break from their careers because of obvious reasons, that it will become difficult to restart their careers after a long gap.

Solution :- Needless to say, once you plan to start a family its obvious for new moms to take a break for some years or months. Either you can request your company to let you operate from home or you can seek for any day care which is near to your office.

Some new moms doesn’t get enough help or care from their partners or the family members. Due to this new moms may feel inadequate in taking care of the baby.

Solution :- You can search for a decent nanny from a trustworthy and reputed agencies. Don’t forget to do a thorough investigation of the nanny.

If there is not enough financial support then also new moms feel depressed in supporting the baby.

Solution :- These days there are so many options by which you can work from home. All you need is a good speed internet, a fax machine, a mobile or a scanner.

During and after pregnancy many couples miss the sex drive for each other. It certainly does affect the love making part.

Solution :- New moms get exhausted and therefore sex drive goes out of the window. It becomes hard to take out time for each other. It would be a good idea to go out on a dinner or a cup of coffee. And once the doctor gives a thumps up you can easily resume your love life!

My personal experience after pregnancy is that I am sleep deprived! At night Hubby and I try to take care of Joshu turn by turn, this way both of us get at least 3 hours of sleep at night.

One more problem which I was facing is I was skipping my meals, because it’s hard for me to take out time to eat properly. Now I have learnt multitasking, I can easily feed him simultaneously and grab a meal at the same time.

I miss taking out some time to write and read some stuff.

Last but not the least is how I feel about my post pregnancy body. I know it’s too early to get back in shape. But I do miss wearing my favorite outfits, miss the feel of being fit and the freedom to do any kind of workout I want. Anyway, slowly and gradually I am getting back to my workout regime.

. Anyway, I know this phase of life is temporary and once the baby starts sleeping at night things will become better.

The only feeling we associate with childbirth is the pain during childbirth and a sense of fulfillment to hold your baby in your arms after giving birth. Would you be surprised if someone were to tell you that you can actually ease your childbirth pain with orgasm ? I am sure it sounds completely unbelievable. I also ridiculed it and dismissed it as an insane thought. But after watching the video on orgasm during childbirth , it startled me and raised various questions in my mind.

I personally have not witnessed any delivery , for the obvious reasons -because in India you are not allowed to witness it. I know it’s ridiculous, but this is the way it has always been. So coming back to the so called “Orgasmic Child Birth ” – I have only watched this documentary where they interview women who went through the experience of orgasmic birth. The documentary also includes the interview of midwifes who claim that how a women can experience orgasm during childbirth.

So how the agonizing pain gets transformed into pleasure during childbirth?

I have watched so many videos on how painful it gets during the delivery. I have seen my sister before giving birth when she was in so much pain. Naturally, the kind of impression I have like every single women is that childbirth is painful. Orgasmic child birth is an intriguing topic therefore I wanted to share this strange topic with my blog visitors.

I have seen and heard so many people opting for natural birth and I completely understand the thought process behind in opting for a natural childbirth ? I personally won’t prefer home birth over hospital because you never know what kind of emergency treatment you or your baby may need at any point of time. At the same time I believe that every woman has the right to choose any form of birth method provided there is required professional support.

Here is the documentary on - Orgasm During Childbirth

• What is childhood abuse? It constitutes of any authoritative action of an adult towards a child. It includes revilement of a child in forms like neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse or any kind of emotional jesting etc. It severely damages the self esteem of the child and the suffering haunts the child for a long period. Needless to say, it demands a lot of courage to decipher because at times, the hurt from the childhood abuse becomes hard to cope up when you grow up. Some parents beat their children regularly and some never bother to provide basic affection rather they just want to gain control over their children.  Mistreatment totally changes the child’s psyche and continue to do so for years to come.

Do you show the following symptoms of childhood abuse?

1. • Learning problems
2. • Deep sense of insecurity
3. • Get oversensitive
4. • Unable to trust people
5. • Becomes violent and abusive
6. • Get nightmares, sleeping disorder
7. • Manic depression
8. • Lack of self confidence
9. • Low self esteem
10. • Subdued Anger

• These signs indicate that you went through a serious trauma in your childhood days. In many cases, the above characteristics become a personality trait and take a very long time to heal. We need to realize that child abuse is not just about scares or bruises; the impact lasts far beyond the physical pain. Experts have revealed that at least 30-80 percent of the childhood survivors develop anxiety disorder, which leads to depression. In most serious cases, adults exhibit the signs of chronic stress disorder.

• Post traumatic disorder is invariably experienced after physical or emotional abuse. The person who had experienced child abuse will continue going through an unbearable pain for years. Abused survivors ironically feel certain amount of guilt and ashamed. The story remains untold because of the deepest fear of being ridiculed or laughed at. Many studies indicate that while going through the healing process an individual will experience number of negative emotions; flashback of all those traumatic times will haunt you. All these reactions will be normal - don’t get dishearten, you are not alone.

• Instead of going through the hurt in isolation, it will be better if you can share your story with any of your trusted friend or a family member. Never allow the negative feelings to devour you in any ways. You have confronted a great challenge and it’s a courageous step to muster up strength to relive the abuse and heal yourself from the torture. If you don’t really trust someone you can always consult a trusted counselor or you can easily write bogs online and share your story, this way you can let out your emotions without disclosing your real identity.

• It is important to take out your subdued emotions from your mind and heart, if you compose it down in some way you are reliving yourself. If you are still in touch with the sexual abuser, then you will have a burning spirit to take revenge. Many victims don’t really want to face the abuser again in their lives; they prefer eradicating the picture of the abuser from their mind. In some cases you can’t avoid the abuser, for example if he/she is your family member or your friend.

Do you ever ponder if the abuser is still harassing someone? The possibility is yes.

Do you want one more person to go through the same suffering which you have faced for many years?

Don’t you want him to be punished before he/she again entraps one more innocent child?

• Indeed it’s difficult to confront the abuser, but remember! It will make you a stronger person, and you will actually be saving many more children from going through the same trauma. Seek support from your family who care for you and the community you are living in, the support system is very essential. People who commit these immoral acts have to be held responsible, and the only way we can make them accountable is by stopping them.

• In most cases the abuser will never admit that he/she actually committed the crime. These days you have number of organizations like NGO’s safeguarding the interests of the sexually abused victims, childhood abuse is a dreadful crime and punishable by law. In most countries there is enough legal precedent to prosecute the crime. Don’t be afraid, you need to combat this stage in your life by punishing the one who had damaged your soul. You need to stand up and fight it out before someone else gets trapped in the abusers immoral deeds.

• Child abuse is completely an act of human degradation; all of us should come forward to help those people who have suffered. Your life and your past childhood moments are precious and no one else has a right to damage that innocence. I really hope that all of us will discuss it more openly so that victims of sexual abuse will not hesitate or get scared to share their horrendous experiences. Unfortunately, not many people come forth to share their stories, don’t feel isolated you can provide a new lease to your life.

I wrote this article in April2008 for a blog called embraceyourlove.

I find pregnant women extremely sexy and attractive ! Irrespective of the extra fat they tend to gain still they look extraordinary. Gone are those days when pregnant women used to hide their big tummy! I have been noticing quite a change in the way society perceive pregnant women and the way pregnant women carry themselves.

I have no qualms in saying that pregnant women look extremely wonderful and sexy! It all depends how you feel about yourself. I really liked some of the nude pictures of Hollywood actresses where they are embracing their body in the most glorifying way. The pictures clearly depict on how comfortable they are with their body!

I want to acknowledge one point here which usually all of us think – That these celebrities are already bold and sexy . Moreover, they do get a makeover and on top of it the camera work does enhance their personality. But hold on ! the point is not about enhancing their outer beauty . In fact it’s more about embracing their gained weight which they flaunt it without any hesitation.

I am in no way suggesting that you embrace your gained pregnancy weight only if you be bold enough like these nude pregnant Hollywood stars! All I wanna say is that if you are one of those pregnant women who wear extra loose attire and cover up your tummy to hide your extra weight then it’s weird!

• Needles to say, every parent gets so excited about giving their child a beautiful name. Some parents even go to an extent of researching the most beautiful name that has some meaning to it. But little did I know that there are some parents that would give a disgraceful name to their own child.

• Actually, in December what happened that a shop declined Mr Campbell son’s name (Adolf Hitler ) to be iced on his birthday cake. What I feel is that “Adolf Hiter” is not just a name it has heartbreaking history to it. It’s a complete insane act to label/name your child “Adolf Hitler”

• Alright, the kid doesn’t understand that what exactly Adolf Hitler stands for, but at least the parents should understand what Adolf Hitler had been associated with in the past and how “we the people” remember him..

• I am sure all of you must be curious to know that why they chose to name their child “Adolf Hitler”? I was equally inquisitive. The report suggests, Mr Campbell said that he selected this name because he thought that this name would be unique as no one will ever be interested to have this name. And moreover, he liked the name!

• Woof! I will never in my wildest dream can think of associating my child with any of the cruel characters or personalities. Are they seeking for some kind of media or public attention ? Without any doubt, Yes! I know there is nothing in the name but isn’t this case conveys different perspective? Alright, this doesn’t fall under child abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse but still there are some disturbing strings attached to it. Right ?

Please go ahead and Share your views about it..