Let’s Share The Story Of Our Lives!

• Needles to say, every parent gets so excited about giving their child a beautiful name. Some parents even go to an extent of researching the most beautiful name that has some meaning to it. But little did I know that there are some parents that would give a disgraceful name to their own child.

• Actually, in December what happened that a shop declined Mr Campbell son’s name (Adolf Hitler ) to be iced on his birthday cake. What I feel is that “Adolf Hiter” is not just a name it has heartbreaking history to it. It’s a complete insane act to label/name your child “Adolf Hitler”

• Alright, the kid doesn’t understand that what exactly Adolf Hitler stands for, but at least the parents should understand what Adolf Hitler had been associated with in the past and how “we the people” remember him..

• I am sure all of you must be curious to know that why they chose to name their child “Adolf Hitler”? I was equally inquisitive. The report suggests, Mr Campbell said that he selected this name because he thought that this name would be unique as no one will ever be interested to have this name. And moreover, he liked the name!

• Woof! I will never in my wildest dream can think of associating my child with any of the cruel characters or personalities. Are they seeking for some kind of media or public attention ? Without any doubt, Yes! I know there is nothing in the name but isn’t this case conveys different perspective? Alright, this doesn’t fall under child abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse but still there are some disturbing strings attached to it. Right ?

Please go ahead and Share your views about it..

• Parenthood is an opportunity to experience all the wonderful moments like baby holding your hand for the first time, your baby taking the first step of her life, you humming all the lovely poems for her which your mother sang to you, telling her a story while she goes to sleep in your arms, the very first day of Kinder garden and many more countless moments which you will cherish for rest of your lives.

• It does sound like a fun game but parenting is not an easy job, especially of a newborn baby. You need to diaper and feed after every interval! And how can you forget the crying part in the middle of the night! Needless to say, parenthood is a challenging responsibility where you have to nurture the development of your child from the very first day.

• You can’t compromise on any aspect of child’s development that is why parenthood involves a special care system and a total commitment in bringing up a child. Indeed it’s a difficult task and it becomes tougher and more challenging when you are a single parent. It becomes a bit easier when you have your partner’s support in bringing up the child.

Handling kids

In today’s scenario, we all are aware that the cost of living is sky high. These days both the parents have to work to provide a decent education facility for their kids. After realizing that you are the only one who is a single source of income then it becomes a challenge to manage everything in a limited income. Don’t give up be positive that you can do it, you need to be self assured in order to accept the whole situation and planning the way out to deal with it in the most sensible way.

Not able to trust people easily

You will find it hard to trust people; it’s obvious that you will take some time to actually like someone. But don’t put unreasonable expectations while dating someone. In a subconscious state of mind you will start comparing the behavior of your date with your ex. There is nothing wrong to scrutinize someone to know the person better, but try to avoid the comparison part because every individual is different and no one is perfect. If you couldn’t get along with your ex that doesn’t mean that you will loose any hope of falling in love again.

Emotional Trauma

Every divorce has to go through the emotional trauma; certainly it takes time to heal from the heartbreaking feel of a breakup. In many cases you end up getting depressed and feel dejected or loose interest in relations.

Simple Ways To Make Kids Happy

In case before getting a divorce your kid’s demands were always fulfilled, but now due to lack of sufficient funds you are not able to give the best entertainment source to your child. The most important thing which you can offer to your child is the quality time, you can take her out to a park and you can easily buy story books, video games, vcds or some toys. You don’t have to always buy an expensive stuff to please your kid.

Join any club

Don’t be afraid to socialize with the outside society, if you think people will judge you based on your personal life then most probably you will never be able to face the world.
I personally know many single parents who are very encouraging in their own way, when you listen to other peoples story it gives you a strength to be stronger. Never forget to help needy people; this will give you a sense of confidence to provide an emotional support to others by encouraging them to fight against all the odds. What can be the most promising thing, if you can actually set an example of yourself by proving that single parenting is not something which you should feel depressed about.

Try to socialize

It’s advisable to try dating, to divert your mind from the daily tensions. Your apprehensions towards your kid are justifiable, but always see the brighter side of the picture. Take out some time for yourself to relax your mind; you can meditate every morning to generate a positive outlook towards life. Gradually your problems will fade away, just don’t give up, you deserve a new start!

Handling kids concerns

We all know that children get affected the most by divorce. It gets very complicated for a single parent to talk about their ex, just because of the reason that you couldn’t get along with them you can’t expect the kids to hate their father or mother. Every child needs affection from both the parents, in many cases even after divorce the parents love towards the child never dies and vice versa.

Time management

When you are a working woman, then naturally it will get difficult for you to manage your time with your kids and at your work place. There comes a need to organize your time in a most effective way. Try to maintain a diary to plan out everything to avoid any kind of chaos in your life.
In the end all it matters is that you are giving your best in very possible way, you need to conquer the psychological challenge of being alone.

• The story of Physical child abuse is almost every family’s story. Though the intensity of it varies, the psychological affect of physical abuse leaves a long lasting disturbing emotional impact on the child’s mind.
• I am sure you must have witnessed parents beating their children. Though the parents define their acts "that is required to discipline their child". Little do they know that how their physical abuse disturbs the child’s peace of mind for years to come? In most cases, people take years to overcome their past physical child abuse.

• It’s quite common for parents to force their children to act and behave in a certain way. Research suggests, that those parents who couldn’t achieve what they wanted to in their lives they start expecting their own children to fulfill their dreams.

• As a result, physically abused child shows troublesome behavior for many years to come. The ability of the child to cope with the memories of the physical abuse depends upon the brutality of the physical abuse.

• The common perception that parents hold is that they don’t beat their children aggressively. HOLD ON! It doesn’t matter whether you beat them frequently or rarely the impact of physical abuse will leave an everlasting impact on your child’s mind.

• In the same way it doesn’t matter if you beat your children severely or just using your fist or slapping your children. The harm to the child’s emotional state is already done once you start behaving aggressively with your child.

• Generally, you will find parents who expect their children to overdo other children in every possible field. The desire to feel proud in front of others parents can make the parents go to any extent, even if it requires beating their own child.

• This should STOP NOW…

• • Day after Day the cases of sexually abused children is increasing on an alarming rate. Surprisingly, most of the victims of sexual abuse are harassed either by their family members or someone they know.

  • Therefore, most children are confounded on who to trust and from where to seek help. In majority of the cases the children are threatened by the abuser. And in other cases children are far too scared of expressing their fears to their family members. One of the main reasons is what if they themselves get blamed for the situation.

  • Study suggests that not all parents are willing to talk about this issue with their children. The first and the foremost cure to help the sexually abused child is to “create awareness among children and parents”

  • All of us (no matter in which category you fall - young, adults, teenagers, singles, married). It’s comprehensible to recognize the fears of a sexually abused child. Therefore, we need to be the Voice of sexually abused children.

• • Sexually abused children face serious emotional trauma that not only affect their physical health but also haunt them for rest of their lives.

  • Media can play an important role in creating awareness among “We the people”. Just by covering some documentary once in a while won’t be sufficient for generating receptiveness on this imperative issue.

  • The schools should conduct regular seminars where the cases of sexually abused children should be discussed (how and where it can happen, precautions children can take, how to avoid these kinds of circumstances)

  • The laws for the predators of the sexually abused child should be rigorous.

  • Be patient to hear the story of a sexually abused child. Never Ever show wraith towards the sexually abused child, otherwise he/she will be even more tormented.

  • Don’t blame the sexually abused child for the situation he/she went through.

  • More channels of Free help lines to help sexually abused children. (This will allow the sexually abused children to share their fears without disclosing their true identity.)

• • More and More institutions should come up to create cognizance about sexual abused cases. It’s quite appalling that I have never seen any movie focusing on the issue of sexually abused victims. (Scratches my head* may be some of the top directors of Hollywood and Bollywood are reading this article) sigh I am not that famous

  • Once you start to commit yourself in helping sexually abused children you will feel a sense of respite. It doesn’t matter on which scale you do it; any kind of effort will make a difference whether it’s on small or a large platform. At the end of the day the only thing which matters is that you are willing to help.

  • In today’s times everybody is occupied in their careers and family life. Nevertheless, once in 2 weeks you can easily manage to visit the rehabilitation centers and spend some quality time with the sexually abused children.

  • I believe there is a lot to express on this topic. I will definitely publish some more articles on ways to prevent the victimization of sexually abused children.

• What I believe is that the act of kindness leaves an everlasting impression, no matter how small the act is or in whichever form it’s! I just want to share one incident which recently happened with me.
• Recently, I saw my help keeper a bit upset and I could notice that she was behaving in a different way. Because usually she greets me saying “daye how are you” Don’t ask me what daye means even I don’t know!!!!!!! May be it’s her own way of calling me since I was a child! So I asked her are you hungry? She said Nope! So I generally talked about how your kids are. Then slowly she opened up and expressed her family dispute.
• For over half an hour she was talking to me and I could see that how upset she was.Actually, She is quite old and has been working in our house for over 15 years. Later, she placed her hands on my head and said alright daye “khush raho” (be happy). I am not sure if she felt better after talking to me but I did feel good when she blessed me.

• My entire life one thing which I have always valued is the blessings and wishes of genuine people. Bring a smile to someone’s face or give a hug to someone who is down has a power to wash away sorrows of any kind.

• Small gestures like these make a whole lot of difference. You will feel a change in yourself; notice how calm and happy you feel to help someone who is in need.