Goodbye letter to my husband

It’s a happy end

I would like to write a goodbye letter to my husband with whom I have been married for 10 years. The end could have been years back but like any other married couple who has children they drag the relationship for the sake of their children. We were also trapped because after having our daughter we tried to work it out so that our daughter doesn’t have to suffer the misery of living in a broken family.

There was something which always bothered me; it’s the lies on which this marriage was based on how I was at the receiving end and he never cared for me in any aspect of my life.
Recently I asked my so called husband to write a letter showing that he did care for me and he was true towards me.

I am copy pasting the whole mail without any additions or subtraction. Some information is deleted to safeguard the interest of my daughter, his family and my family and friends.

Being faithful
Ensuring I stayed awake in a hostel for you in shimla
Ensured I was there every step of the way during your pregnancy
Attended every doctor session
Held your hand during delivery
Supported you during the time you were working in a computer Academy days by driving and picking you up and making breakfast
A million cold coffees
Responsible for so much shit
Paid for your course
During massive fight waited for you outside your office
Proud of you that you are working
Stayed awake a million times when Natalia our daughter was young
Took care of papa when he was sick which was my duty
Supported you I’m every way I could have against so many times you duckedy happiness
Humiliated me so many times like in front of my staff in dubai and Delhi
Helped to make document related to your office work
I asked you to let go of your job in New Zealand only so we can stay together
And that was the right decision it was

Only once went out alone in New Zealand
Always took you everywhere
Every office party I took you
Looking after you and taking care of you a million fucking days

Spoke about you proudly to friends and on Facebook

There are some things I agree to and there are some that sound really hilarious. I will reply to all.

Being faithful – Oh leave this topic you have never been a 1 woman man

I would like to add some occasions here where he lied about talking to someone. There have been so many incidents when he gave freedom to other girls to interfere in his personal lives. There were a few girls who used to filthy things about me (and the laughable thing is they never met me); still they used to pass judgments on me. I would never let any guy come to me and say bad things about my husband.
There were many occasions when I read the chats (which he claimed that he is not in touch with her but he lied to me he still used to talk to her and many other girls) When I caught the chat he backed off saying its not him, he twisted the things around by saying someone is trying to play games here and somebody is using my laptop. Many days went by and I was adamant that it was him who talked but he lied to me; he event went to the extent of getting a printout of the chat to prove I don’t know what. And after a month he accepted that it was his chat and nobody else. He went out with girls when he was on office tours. There were some pictures which I saw in his boss’s laptop where he is close to girls around. He used to send me pictures but he would never mail me all those pictures.

I have also worked and I know how to behave professionally, he gives too much freedom to girls to interfere in his personal lives then blame it on other girls that she said this and that.

You think I never get to know with whom you share your flat when you are touring?.Sharing flats with women is something you enjoy, a man like you would defend this also by saying you are saving money by this. A girl like me who never ever encouraged a man to even message me, on the other hand you sleeping around. God has seen me how every night I have cried myself to sleep. How I have never got carried away. Because I am proud of the way I have been and If there is god he would do justice to my unconditional loyalty towards this loveless and careless marriage.


Ensuring I stayed awake in a hostel for you in shimla

This is the incident where we went to this spiritual place to pray, I was the one who pushed him to go because he was struggling in his career and I said to myself I will walk barefoot for 30 K.M.

I walked barefoot and kept fasts for weeks so that he gets the job. It’s a religious thing.
We could not get ant hotel room so we had no option but to sleep around people and he didn’t sleep for some time as the room was crowded and there was no security.
If I could walk barefoot 30 K.M and keeps fasts for weeks then staying awake for 15 minutes was no big deal I guess.

Ensured I was there every step of the way during your pregnancy

I totally disagree with this. We were living abroad during my pregnancy days and in abroad the maids are so costly. I used to feel so weak all through my pregnancy but he never used to be bothered to even cook or do some help in the household. There were hardly a few times when he helped that too when I asked him to. He would never initiate things from his end to show a caring gesture. Whenever I would tell him to cook something he would order food from outside. He used to be on internet right after coming from his office till late night. He would download music and do any stuff but he would never bother to search on what things you can do as a husband towards your pregnant wife. Not even a single day he would say can I give a massage can I do something whenever I would feel weak.
I still remember when I got pregnant he told me don’t expect me to do extra ordinary things just because you are pregnant. I can never forget this line. Even my parents saw how you would not care for me even in the last days of pregnancy.

Attended every doctor session

We were in New Zealand during my pregnancy; there was language problem and I was not aware of the place. So as a husband it was his responsibility to go. Fine he fulfilled this part atleast.

Held your hand during delivery

Excuse me? I was carrying his baby what do you mean by I held your hand. Is this something extraordinary you did. Wow.

Supported you during the time you were working in a computer Academy days by driving and picking you up and making breakfast

I completely disagree on this; he never supported me in finding the job; I used to go alone seeking for jobs. When he wanted to shift job I used to search on internet like crazy post his resume to consultants, reply to consultants and what not. I even used to be with his during the times he would go for interviews.

A million cold coffees

It’s getting really hilarious.. I know in 7 years without asking you made coffee not more than 20 times. Other times I asked you. It’s really funny that you would mention making cold coffee as a caring gesture. That is all you can come up with? I know its hard because there was nothing to include. Did you mention in New Zealand for 2 years sand 6 months how I did every single stuff of the house all alone. Where your contribution was “0”

Responsible for so much shit

Which shit? The same shit you put me through and to my parents? With the kind of treatment, lies and deceit that your family threw on me. How you used to trouble my parents with our marital issues everyday was unacceptable still they never utter a word. In 10 years of marriage you didn’t give me bed of roses; still I never bothered your so called the most caring who you never liked. You always told me how horrible they have been in your childhood, how they used to teach to lie, how they played games to deceive people and I can carry on things you told me about your parents. My parents tolerated you far too much. The way you ex wife left you because of your womanizing nature and your irresponsible attitude towards her. The same day 1 day I will leave you, the only reason I feel helpless is because of my daughter. But having a father who is full of lies and who never realized what a child wants is something I think over hundred times.

Paid for your course

Hold on you paid my fees? Yes you did What am I suppose to do ask my parents??? For the fees?
Why didn’t you mention the kind of treatment you gave me during my course exams. You made sure to make my life hell with some or the other issues. You did nt give me a single peppy and snatched the ATM from me when I was travelling all alone. My parents dropped me to the Railway station and they gave me the money.

You lied to me about your education and do you really want me to tell? I applied for your management course I used to be on internet so that I could do your assignments.

Then one more course where I used to go to the institute which is far away from our place still I went taking Natalia along in heat; so that you could do the course. Standing in long in the long queue and struggling to submit the assignments was something which you would never acknowledge. This was all in return to how mean you were towards my education. After having a child pursuing education is difficult as the woman has to take care of the child, house n study on top of it. But you made sure you would make it as challenging as you can so that I would fail. But you failed in all your games I passed the course with good marks.
I mean I remember every single day of supporting you so that you can graduate. But how shamelessly you abandoned me when in terms of my education.

During massive fight waited for you outside your office.

Are you trying to act funny here. You had the car so obviously you would come and it just happened once. Did you mention the last incident where I came by feet and you said you don’t know when you can come and you were at home when I came. Wow.
Would you like to mention all the times I would still serve you breakfast still pack lunch even after how horrible our fights would turn out to be.

Proud of you that you are working.

Yes how can I forget how much you helped me in my career it’s the biggest laugh. Its laughable you once out with me when I forced you to take me for interviews you said I am doing this just to maintain records that I went with you. It clearly states that you didn’t do it out of care or love you did it because I should not turn around and say you didn’t accompany me. Thank god I did and achieved everything on my own.

Stayed awake a million times when Natalia our daughter was young

Yes you did no doubt in it. Till Natalia was 5 months old. You had no job because all your lies of your education was caught and you were jobless. And you even blamed my daughters bird timings in destroying your career.After Natalia turned 5 months you never ever never ever I mean I curse myself for choosing you the father of my child. Taking our daughter out for having a pizza, rides and giving her iPod … in your 4 days visit in 2 months is all you have done. Shame on you for not realizing what a child wants. Saying you are working for her to pay the EMI of the house. You think a child would really need a house or time of his father.

Took care of papa when he was sick which was my duty

Please give me a break, you harassed him and my mother emotionally. If you are telling me that you took care of them by giving water whenever he would cough then shut the hell up. How much emotional and financial pain you have given to my parents only I know. I pity on your ex wife that how horrible you had been with her family. You told me hundred times that her parents became a burden for you. If a woman is doing something for her parents after getting married you question the loyalty of the woman towards her married life. Hate every sec of realizing that I chose you to be my life partner. Hate it. You used my parents emotionally and financially till the time they were working. Once they got retired you despised them.

Supported you I’m every way I could have against so many times you duckedy happiness

Oh my god it’s hilarious.. Your support has been “0” please mention the incident just by saying you supported is ridiculous.

Humiliated me so many times like in front of my staff in dubai and Delhi

Humiliated how? Just because I didn’t say Bye to you in front of your driver is called humiliation? Wowwwww. Please check the meaning of humiliation in the dictionary.

Helped to make document related to your office work.

Yes it was for not more than 10 minutes once in 7 minutes. I do remember it was in the drawing. If it was for more than 10 minutes then please get back to me with proofs.

I asked you to let go of your job in New Zealand only so we can stay together

No you asked me to quit my job because your office shifted to some other place and you were saying it would be hard to travel. And wow when you shifted to the new place your office again relocated. I left my job still things were not enough for you. The guy who never helped me in my career for that guy I left my job. I still moved in an empty house slept on the floor for 6 months while you were touring staying in hotels. And guess what you bought a SAMSUNG phone instead of buying a basic necessity bed. It still brings tears to my eyes thinking all that. I can’t believe I went through that hell. Like I say you lost your wife long time back, it’s just a drag. And very soon my patience will be over.

Only once went out alone in New Zealand

What a laugh.

Looking after you and taking care of you a million fucking days

Spoke about you proudly to friends and on Facebook

Oh my god.. how can I forget so many statuses insulting me and degrading the marriage. You bitched about me to your boss, unlike me who never tolerated a word against you from anyone.

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