Are Beautiful Girls Just About Make Up And Breakups?

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· I remember a discussion with one of my friend on how beautiful girls and average looking girls think differently and how men perceive them. He said that average looking girls don’t flirt around much because they know that they are just average looking and if they flirt around then that can hamper their reputation. On the other hand, beautiful girls are more in demand and even if they flirt around still they will get loads of proposals at their doorstep.

· Secondly, average looking girls are easy to approach and have no hang ups. On the contrary, beautiful girls are surrounded by many offers after all beauty rules. Thirdly, average looking girls are less demanding and are willing to compromise. They are satisfied with what they have, unlike beautiful girls who crave for more materialistic things and never compromise with anything.

· Average girls are more caring not like beautiful girls who are self obsessed with their looks and makeup. And in the end he said most of all average girls are more committed to the relationship than beautiful girls. Therefore, men feel more secured with average looking girls because beautiful girls are surrounded by more offers all the time.

· My reaction to my friend :- First and the foremost thing is that it’s ridiculous to categorize beautiful girls Vs Average Looking Girls . Every girl is beautiful in her own way. There is no point in differentiating between "so called" Average Looking Girls and Beautiful Girls. But still I would like to share my response to my friend who raised this conversation.  Firstly, What girls think and how they think has nothing to do with their outer beauty. Every girl has different opinions, thoughts, values, dreams, wants and desires. It has nothing to do with their personality.

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· Both average looking girls and beautiful girls look for a loving partner who is loyal, caring and responsible towards his family. If any girl chooses to flirt around and have a time pass affair then it’s entirely because of the kind of choice, outlook she has towards life and relationships. You can’t judge anyone just based on what kind of choices they make in life.

· And as far as commitments and compromises are concerned, again it depends on your perspective towards life. If a girl is in love with some guy then all the 3 C’s will come naturally. (Compromises, Commitments, Care ). You can win any girls heart and be with her for rest of your life only if your love is unconditional. Therefore, it’s absurd to think that men feel more secured with average looking girls than beautiful girls.

· I want to share one more incident. There is one uncle who once was talking to my brother about this wedding he attended. He was like the wedding was organized beautifully and the girl’s family spend a lot of money in organizing the event. Then after a while he went to the extent of saying – No matter how much they spend and have entertained their guests in the most lavish way BUT BUT The girl was not beautiful at all. The minute he said that I raised my eyebrows and said that it’s completely presumptuous to have an opinion like that. What difference it’s going to make whether the girl is average looking or beautiful.

· He questioned me “for you what matters?” I said all that matters is the nature of the girl. He smiled sarcastically and said “I know they had to spend a lot on the wedding because their daughter was not beautiful” I was disgusted with his statement and said I guess for you marriage is just a business deal. You will choose a proposal based on how much money you can make. I gave him a sickened expression and just walked away. I guess in today’s time men don’t just run for beauty. May be its different when it’s just for time pass affair or dating then it’s a different case. But when it comes to a long term commitment then men need more than just beauty. Irrespective of what I have written above still you will find thousands of marriage proposals stating " Extremely Beautiful, Fair, Slim, Working and Rich Girl Wanted! Am I Right? All I can say that those men who think like this don’t deserve to be your partner. And those men who blame their family that they will find a proposal for them – then they are not capable of taking a stand of their own. So how can any girl entrust her whole life to this kind of man?

Free Relationship Counseling (Problems In Relationships)

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Relationships are not easy; it requires a lot of hard work. The most important key to have a healthy relationship is to know the ways to have a healthy communication. Needless to say, every marriage goes through differences and fights. Therefore, it becomes vital to understand that how can you strengthen your marriage with love, care and patience.

  • Many marriages go through tough times because of lack of effective communication. Irrespective of the fact, for how many years you have been married still every couple goes through arguments.
  • The only factor that can be helpful to resolve the conflicts in a marriage is to be a good listener and be understanding about your partner’s concerns.
  • First and the foremost is “Respect” for your partner should be maintained. Therefore, under no circumstances you should use Filthy or Abusive Terms. (Yeah you can use any abusive term if you catch your hubby making out with some other woman 😉
  • Let your partner express her/his concerns about the things which has been bothering him/her. Therefore, don’t interrupt in between when your partner is articulating.

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  • Mostly, couples don’t let each other finish the conversation and swoop in between to defend themselves.
  • In order to make your partner feel cared you need to be patient and make your partner express her/his thoughts without any restraint.
  • Once your partner finishes, ask him/her that is there anything else you want to share? If the answer is ‘No” then move forward to express your views about the whole issue.
  • Don’t hesitate to bring humor to an argument. Sometimes, it really works. Ask your partner what things hurt him/her. Usually couples blame their partners for getting hurt on trivial things. Always remember, it’s a human nature to get hurt.
  • If your partner behaves differently – Ask him/her that “ Is something bothering you” This will not only make her/him feel wanted but will also makes her/him feel comfortable of opening up about certain things that are bothering him/her recently.

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  • Don’t name the process of opening up as ‘Cribbing’ or ‘Complaining”. Usually couple makes this mistake of dismissing their couple by being ignorant to the whole situation. This can be quite disheartening for your partner and can also make her/him feel neglected.
  • Always be willing to change, any change that makes your partner happy is welcoming. But, don’t expect drastic or unreasonable changes. While arguing, do appreciate your partner. Don’t just focus on negative attributes.
  • Look into the eyes of your partner while communicating. Make your partner feel that you are paying attention to her/his concerns.Simple gestures like holding hands, caressing the back, hair can make your partner feel cared.
  • Most couples say “ I don’t like this” “I want this” In today’s demanding world where you have demanding jobs where you don’t leave any stone unturned to impress your boss and put your best effort at your workplace. But not many couples are willing to put even 30% of the same in their personal lives. The only reason is that some couple takes their partners for “granted”

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  • Before you and your partner drift apart emotionally, try to practice introspection.
  • Watch your words and actions. Never ever bring the past back issues while arguing. It can result into bitterness and can cause resentment.
  • Therefore, don’t blurt out things which you will repent it later. When you feel dishearten and hurt, then the philosophy which usually couples espouse – is to make the other partner feel equally miserable. If you do the same then STOP IT NOW! It’s totally wrong!!!
  • Don’t do “name calling” in a sarcastic way. I guess you guys know what I’m talking about here!
  • The utmost important aspect of being “Happy” in a relationship is to put yourself at your partners place and then understand the concerns of your partner. Every couple needs to realize that marriage is like an association. Every couple usually have the same dream and goals to achieve; i.e to have a peaceful environment and a comfortable lifestyle, then why not strengthen the “Bond” of your marriage .
  • Hence, it involves the support and participation of both the partners to make each other feel at ease, loved and cared. Needless to say, every couple would love to have a healthy and affectionate marriage.

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  • Of course saying “I Love You” is important but more than words sometimes you require it to show with your actions, gestures and how you make your partner feel about having you in the relationship.
  • But, if the differences are not resolved with the right approach then it can lead to break-up, Extra- marital affairs or inclination towards any other person, Depression and can even lead to suicidal attempts. Before it gets too late, understand your partner and make each other feel loved.

Effective communication can do wonders for any relationship. There is no one way to keep your marriage affectionate, harmonious and loving. With time every relationship grow – just relax it’s natural to have disagreements and misunderstandings.