Let’s Share The Story Of Our Lives!

Have you ever wondered how similar our journey of life is in certain ways?

• All of us have experienced Hurt in relationships , still life moves on leaving behind the feeling of bitterness , hurt and resentment. Later we end up labeling it a failed relationship . Not many people come in terms with the hurt of the past relationship and that may result in depression. In other cases it can cause fear in your mind of not trusting anyone. Either you feel incapable of maintaining a relationship or you are too scared to get hurt all over again.

• One thing on which all of us would agree is that relationships help us grow in life, no matter you had a failed relationship or have a very fulfilling relationship. Thus, would it be right to label relationships as failed or successful? In my opinion it’s important to first come in terms with your past relationship hurt. In most of the cases we move on with life but find it hard to forgive or forget. Majority of us struggle hard to forgive, and if you have not forgiven someone then it’s impossible to forget the hurt of your past relationship.

• Majority of us find it hard to forgive; indeed it’s not easy to inculcate a forgiving nature. I myself have struggled to forgive some people in my life who have deeply hurt me. Then I wonder may be forgetting those people will help me in eliminating those distressful memories. As a result it may help me curb my anger towards those people. But unfortunately I have not been successful in either forgetting or forgiving and as a result it’s severely affecting my peace of mind.

• After all it’s not easy to forget the hurt, some people say time is the biggest healer but I kind of disagree. Those people who are forgiving in nature are really blessed in life. I have read and watched many documentaries about forgiveness. But none of them have helped me in anyways.The only help that assists me is Self Help. I have gone through innumerable helpful quotes, verses, inspirational stories or biographies but again of no use. One mindset that helped me to pacify my hurt is to tell myself that relationships help us grow in life. As a result, with time I have become a stronger person, now the way I perceive life and relationships is totally different  than the way I used to 10 years ago. Still there is a lot to learn about life in general.

• One can practice introspection of your past relationship that will help you in realizing the mistakes you committed. Every relationship (with your family, spouse, boy friend, girl friend, children and so on) helps you grow in life . If you look back in life and introspect – you will find a change in yourself in comparison to what you were in the past. All of us change with time and some of the main factors of the change in you are relationships. Therefore, if your past broken relationship helped you grow in certain aspects of your life then how can you label it a failed relationship?

The utmost important relationship in life is your relationship with yourself. Self Esteem, Self Awareness, Self Conciousness, Self Growth, Self Respect and Self Help are the most significant and essential facet of our lives.

“I need someone to talk to” How many times you have said this to yourself?

• Sometimes we think that there is nobody to talk to. All of us need to be heard! But not all of us have someone to whom they can approach to share their thoughts and fears. Even if you have someone who is willing to share your concerns and thoughts, still you don’t necessarily feel comfortable to open up. In situations like these when you feel that nobody understands you and you feel lost, it’s advisable to bring out your thoughts and feelings in some ways.

• Furthermore, each one of us goes through crisis in our lives, whether it’s related to their personal or professional life. There are times when we are happy or sad, during these times when we need someone to talk to.

• At the same time in today’s busy life you will find people who are not able to balance their professional and personal life. It leads to breakups, divorce and conflicts which affect their emotional well being. This is the time when you feel left out, rejected and detached from the outside world.

• It becomes difficult when you don’t even feel comfortable to share your concerns and emotions with your friends and family. During these times it gets very hard for an individual to lead a relaxed life with all the cluttered thoughts in their mind.

Things to do to feel relaxed and to gain a positive frame of mind:-

• In times like these, when you don’t have anyone to open up to it’s advisable to pour your thoughts through writing.

• With the advent of internet you are exposed to thousands of help line in the form of websites. Make the best use of it.

• There are many chat rooms where you can interact with other people. But the most important factor is first to take care of your own security by not sharing your personal information.

• Start your own blog or a forum where you have the freedom to talk about issues you are facing. It will not only help you to open up but you will also be able to help other needy people who need assistance.

• Don’t hesitate to call a helpline to seek counseling.

• I am not a professional person to guide but still I respect every individual’s right to open up. I hold my beliefs and values with great respect and value other person’s point of view at the time of crisis. The only factor that has been helpful for me to heal my fears is to communicate with someone you trust.

• But there are times when you don’t have someone to gain strength from, during that time search for strength within you. It’s easy said than done! But the most fulfilling relationship you can ever form is the relationship with yourself.

• I am sure that I and my blog don’t even exist in the internet world! But that doesn’t make much of a difference to me. I hold my vision, beliefs and thoughts to myself and the blog provides me the freedom to open up. That’s the only purpose of this blog, it’s quite overwhelming to read my own thoughts.

• I thank all those people who post their valuable comments on my blog, it boost my morale that there are some people who acknowledge my effort to talk about certain issues that makes a difference.

• So the only suggestion for people out there who need someone to talk to is to find activities that will help you open up, boost your morale and lift up your subdued spirit.

• Eat healthy, read novels,dance, listen to music, write poems, participate in sports and most of all go out and help needy people.

• It will give you an immense strength that you have helped someone who is going through a tough time. Believe me the pain, anger and sorrows that are building inside you will slowly diminish.

• If you see someone who you think is introvert, lonely and going through an emotional trauma don’t be judgmental, just approach the person with an open mind. It requires a great deal of patience and effort to understand a person who is a victim of stress, depression, child abuse or any kind of addictions.

Depression is a state of mind which leads to sadness; mostly people suffer because of the disappointments that they face in day to day life. If the situation becomes worse, then it can end up in a serious depressive disorder, which will require a special treatment. The symptom of depression varies from phase to phase, its crucial to analyze the kind of depression so that special attention should be given to cure depression.

Following are the main symptoms of depression:

1. You feel depressed, lost, bored and mad all the time.

2. You easily get tired; your energy level goes down.

3. You get isonomic or you hardly get any sleep, you get nightmares every night. Face constant difficulty in sleeping.

4. Your thought process gets disturbed which leads to lack of concentration, your decision power diminishes day by day. The level of productivity at your work place goes down drastically.

5. You loose interest in all the pleasurable activities you used to enjoy, like sex, hanging out with friends or family members; hence your life becomes dull.

6. You stop valuing yourself, low self esteem or guilt disturbs your mental peace.

7. You develop eating disorder, either you eat too much or you don’t feel like eating anything. You develop disturbed appetite.

8. You suffer physical chronic pains like headaches, chest pain and many other health disorders.

9. Feel too scared to face the outside world; don’t feel strong enough to compete, negative attitude traps your mind.

10. Suicidal thoughts can creep into your mind; you loose the meaning of your existence.

11. You feel irritable with a slightest provocation.