A Love Letter To My Wife – Ours is a Stormy Kind of Love

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An Ode to My Wife

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Honey It’s been a long time when I last wrote a love letter to you. I have written at least 100 love letters to you and you have written just 1 ! You always say you don’t know how to write a love letter and I Say at least say it how much you love me.

Whole Lotta Love duh duh duh!
Where do I begin,,, she has been there for me like no one else has. She is the mother to my child, pink to my black, smile to my frown, white light pointing the way forward in darkness, heaven sent, fire and ice, the tempest, wild beauty, untamed heart, Emilia to my Iago (except that she helps me to become a better man), the eccentric sportsmen, creator of the “piyo”, rebellious anti-romantic, lady for the poor, mama’s girl, the German Sheppard lover, from innocent to naughty, from seductive voice to conservative libertine!

She lift my days and light my nights, yet she can kill you with a smile or with a deft touch, an ocean of incoherent thoughts for me to find my way to her promise land. A promise land in pink and white, where she he is running on green grass making heads turn as an aura passes them by. The love for sea food, newly acquired taste in Guinness and Newcastle ale tells a tale a girl wanting to be much more than her present.

She comes from bright land of wisdom, innocence and peace. She has unknowingly kissed chaos; she did not know what was coming, she was tricked into believing only the good and not the bad. She cried foul but took the punches in her stride, giving her strength to her man. Standing by her man! Casting a spell of purity and magic, protecting him from betrayal and thoughts that are tragic.

She did not realize but she has crossed the chaos, the flooding river, yet she feels lost in her own promise land. Did she really want it to start with? A little tired of waiting for the next big wave, she has started to create her own, ushered in by a born-again man, they come together in the most needful hour, they are the same. She needs to believe in him more, he needs to give her more. She will win her actual promise land, her freedom from confused thoughts and negative vibes! She will triumph over adversity only if she BELIEVES in herself and her old new man!

Don’t Forget!

The first kiss on the Ride back home, to Delhi haat, outside Dayal mansion, Bangkok boat ride, Parikrama parikrama, Paul McCartney rain and clutching of hand to go home and the smile when he came on to sing, the FA cup final, Momo, 9-1 baddy thrashing at amby (felt really good huh!), slippers in -21, O’briens, Mister chef, corono drinking and sleeping, champagne bottle in 5 minutes, loving breezer, the test in bath room and screaming, joshu’s heart beat, Oscar performances (how can I miss), navel revealing rebel to you know who?, rolling stones is a …….. , the window at krasnorminsk, cozy home in 7 days, endless relatives, the poise at lunch with Ukrainians, Goa train ride, guarding you in Jammu, this is where your humor lies, the shouts at Centaur, the naan at Centaur, Amitabh’s story on the drive home, so many stories! Your first Paypal sal! I remember! The new opportunities which you brought in for me. Your hand in my destiny, from Dubai to Kiev.

So remember Wifey, even if I “think” I am the brains of the outfit, you are the soul of the outfit, the guiding light and the destiny of the outfit. If you want me to get Jake, bring Jake to me! Only you can! Just ask God! As I will ask for you to start and achieve your destiny! (I think it is business…)

From Ankhiyon Ke Jharokhon to Whole Lotta Love! Darling your journey has begun! So forget about what’s been, embrace your future, your love, your Joshu, your man! Fall in Love again with me! I still love you after all these years! And even though you don’t think I do! My silly sassy girl – I DO!!! I love you like crazy! There never could be a better moment than THIS ONE!

So in the words of our Bono

“All the promises we make from the cradle to grave, when all I want is you”

Free Relationship Counseling (Problems In Relationships)

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'Honeymoon couples'

Relationships are not easy; it requires a lot of hard work. The most important key to have a healthy relationship is to know the ways to have a healthy communication. Needless to say, every marriage goes through differences and fights. Therefore, it becomes vital to understand that how can you strengthen your marriage with love, care and patience.

  • Many marriages go through tough times because of lack of effective communication. Irrespective of the fact, for how many years you have been married still every couple goes through arguments.
  • The only factor that can be helpful to resolve the conflicts in a marriage is to be a good listener and be understanding about your partner’s concerns.
  • First and the foremost is “Respect” for your partner should be maintained. Therefore, under no circumstances you should use Filthy or Abusive Terms. (Yeah you can use any abusive term if you catch your hubby making out with some other woman 😉
  • Let your partner express her/his concerns about the things which has been bothering him/her. Therefore, don’t interrupt in between when your partner is articulating.

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  • Mostly, couples don’t let each other finish the conversation and swoop in between to defend themselves.
  • In order to make your partner feel cared you need to be patient and make your partner express her/his thoughts without any restraint.
  • Once your partner finishes, ask him/her that is there anything else you want to share? If the answer is ‘No” then move forward to express your views about the whole issue.
  • Don’t hesitate to bring humor to an argument. Sometimes, it really works. Ask your partner what things hurt him/her. Usually couples blame their partners for getting hurt on trivial things. Always remember, it’s a human nature to get hurt.
  • If your partner behaves differently – Ask him/her that “ Is something bothering you” This will not only make her/him feel wanted but will also makes her/him feel comfortable of opening up about certain things that are bothering him/her recently.

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  • Don’t name the process of opening up as ‘Cribbing’ or ‘Complaining”. Usually couple makes this mistake of dismissing their couple by being ignorant to the whole situation. This can be quite disheartening for your partner and can also make her/him feel neglected.
  • Always be willing to change, any change that makes your partner happy is welcoming. But, don’t expect drastic or unreasonable changes. While arguing, do appreciate your partner. Don’t just focus on negative attributes.
  • Look into the eyes of your partner while communicating. Make your partner feel that you are paying attention to her/his concerns.Simple gestures like holding hands, caressing the back, hair can make your partner feel cared.
  • Most couples say “ I don’t like this” “I want this” In today’s demanding world where you have demanding jobs where you don’t leave any stone unturned to impress your boss and put your best effort at your workplace. But not many couples are willing to put even 30% of the same in their personal lives. The only reason is that some couple takes their partners for “granted”

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  • Before you and your partner drift apart emotionally, try to practice introspection.
  • Watch your words and actions. Never ever bring the past back issues while arguing. It can result into bitterness and can cause resentment.
  • Therefore, don’t blurt out things which you will repent it later. When you feel dishearten and hurt, then the philosophy which usually couples espouse – is to make the other partner feel equally miserable. If you do the same then STOP IT NOW! It’s totally wrong!!!
  • Don’t do “name calling” in a sarcastic way. I guess you guys know what I’m talking about here!
  • The utmost important aspect of being “Happy” in a relationship is to put yourself at your partners place and then understand the concerns of your partner. Every couple needs to realize that marriage is like an association. Every couple usually have the same dream and goals to achieve; i.e to have a peaceful environment and a comfortable lifestyle, then why not strengthen the “Bond” of your marriage .
  • Hence, it involves the support and participation of both the partners to make each other feel at ease, loved and cared. Needless to say, every couple would love to have a healthy and affectionate marriage.

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  • Of course saying “I Love You” is important but more than words sometimes you require it to show with your actions, gestures and how you make your partner feel about having you in the relationship.
  • But, if the differences are not resolved with the right approach then it can lead to break-up, Extra- marital affairs or inclination towards any other person, Depression and can even lead to suicidal attempts. Before it gets too late, understand your partner and make each other feel loved.

Effective communication can do wonders for any relationship. There is no one way to keep your marriage affectionate, harmonious and loving. With time every relationship grow – just relax it’s natural to have disagreements and misunderstandings.