Why Do We Sometimes Hate Ourselves?

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Loneliness is killing me from within

I am sure that this “topic” will sound “bizarre” to some of the readers. Personally speaking “Psychology” is one of my favorite areas of interest. The title is directly connected to:-

  1. Depression
  2. Loneliness
  3. Stress
  4. Anger
  5. Alcoholic
  6. Chain Smoker
  7. Drug Addiction
  8. And many more emotional setbacks.

Mostly, those people who don’t admire themselves tend to have various emotional problems. Some of the main reasons of an individual “hating themselves” are:-

  1. Being let down by the society
  2. Injustice
  3. Criticism
  4. Lack of Emotional Attachment
  5. Domestic Violence
  6. Childhood Abuse
  7. Sexual Abuse
  8. Lack of self esteem
  9. Neglected by the society
  10. Rejection

  • In order to lead a blissful life, it’s very important to have self – love. You can’t gain the love of others if you lack self love. First you need to be at peace with yourself then only you can gain peace with others.
  • Needless to say, introspection is the answer to all your questions. It will allow you to help yourself by allowing you to overcome all the negative emotions which you have build against yourself.
  • Write down all the memories, decisions, individuals and incidents that make you feel inferior of yourself.
  • Don’t doubt your true ability to be a strong person and assemble all the strong attributes of your personality.
  • Don’t set unrealistic standards for yourself. If you think you have made certain wrong decisions in life then try to self – empathize. Nobody is perfect! Even the most influential people on this earth have made mistakes in life.

  • Don’t let your past bad decisions hinder your future growth. Accept all your mistakes and learn a lesson from every mistake you commit.
  • There are many people who have suffered from some kind of abuse in their lives. Indeed it’s tormenting to go through an emotional abuse.
  • If you think you should have apposed the oppressor in the past then its better late than never. Never endure ay kind of abuse no matter in which form it is targeted on you.
  • Have you missed any opportunities in the past and didn’t give your best effort? I am sure it hurts and sometimes we do curse ourselves for not utilizing an opportunity in the best possible way.
  • I have noticed many people discussing about their past regrets and blaming themselves. This way they become a victim of depression but they are also obliterating their present and the future.
  • Many times I have seen people blaming their cultural or family background for not being successful in their lives. I know the family values and guidance counts a lot in shaping an individual. But after a while it’s our actions and decisions that can either “make us” or “break us”.
  • Therefore, it’s alright if you have not received the required assistance in the past. You can now be “self-motivated” and excel in your life. It’s quite fulfilling to be “On Your Own”

Learn How To Gain Control Over Food Cravings To Reduce Weight

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How many of us are always seeking an advise on how to reduce weight or tips to plan a healthy nutritious diet.

One main struggle which every single overweight person is going through is to overcome food cravings. One of the most struggling temptations is for junk food. In order to reduce weight you need to have control over your temptations.

I am sure you must have heard people complaining about how difficult it’s to win over temptations. Needless to say, it’s not easy, but those people who can gain control over temptations achieve positive results in the end.

Are you also one of those million people who loves to enjoy exotic food? Let’s all accept the very fact that eating gives us pleasure, whether it’s a mouth watering chocolate or a slice of pizza and the list is just endless! You will hardly come across anyone who is not fond of any particular kind of cuisine, the preference differs from person to person.

There are thousands of websites that are totally focused on helping overweight people to loose weight and to become healthy. So there is no lack of awareness or information about the right kind of nutrition or exercise one should adapt in order to be fit and healthy. So, where exactly the problem lies?

Let’s discuss about why – when – how these food temptations occur. And at last we will try to find a solution to gain control on ourselves to achieve a healthy and fit body. Take a diary where you will be noting down all your feelings towards gaining control over your temptations. Ask yourself that are you depressed because of some personal, professional or health reasons?

Every time you had a fight with your boss, wife or boy friend you tend to grab your favorite treat like a chocobar or packet of potato chips. In this situation the food craving are directly related to your emotions. As your mind is not at peace with yourself therefore you are not able to direct your actions in a positive direction. Stress often takes a toll on anyone so don’t think that you are alone. All you have to do is to fight against negative thoughts and do every possible thing to reduce weight.

Furthermore, the connection between stress and eating habits is quite complex. Research suggests “ it’s important to determine how an individual suffer from stress and how his/her eating habits change with the extra stress level”. It’s a proven fact that people who are suffering from severe stress level start consuming calorie packed foods.

When do you mostly struggle with food cravings?

It’s quite common that when you have a hard day, you start thinking of ways to feel good. And won’t it be awesome if you can grab some chocolate or a pack of cookies. It gives you a feel good factor for a while but – but does it make you feel the same way after you finish it? Let’s all accept it that all the food cravings are fattening!!

On the other hand if you are fit and you make sure that you workout in the gym on a regular basis then once in a while giving a treat to yourself is acceptable! But when you are trying to reduce, then fattening stuff which is oily or sweet will make you fatter.

Before going to sleep you can write down about what food you had and later which made you feel guilty! It’s very important to recognize the trigger that develops a sense of craving in your mind.

Once you know how to cope up, half of your battle is already won. Any factor that leads to food craving needs to be tackled, whether it’s your loneliness which is killing you, or the work pressure or your recent breakup.