Transform Your Life – Overcome Your Abused Childhood Trauma

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child abuse victims

  • What is childhood abuse? It constitutes of any authoritative action of an adult towards a child. It includes revilement of a child in forms like neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse or any kind of emotional jesting etc. It severely damages the self esteem of the child and the suffering haunts the child for a long period. Needless to say, it demands a lot of courage to decipher because at times, the hurt from the childhood abuse becomes hard to cope up when you grow up. Some parents beat their children regularly and some never bother to provide basic affection rather they just want to gain control over their children.  Mistreatment totally changes the child’s psyche and continue to do so for years to come.

    Do you show the following symptoms of childhood abuse?

    1. • Learning problems
    2. • Deep sense of insecurity
    3. • Get oversensitive
    4. • Unable to trust people
    5. • Becomes violent and abusive
    6. • Get nightmares, sleeping disorder
    7. • Manic depression
    8. • Lack of self confidence
    9. • Low self esteem
    10. • Subdued Anger
    • These signs indicate that you went through a serious trauma in your childhood days. In many cases, the above characteristics become a personality trait and take a very long time to heal. We need to realize that child abuse is not just about scares or bruises; the impact lasts far beyond the physical pain. Experts have revealed that at least 30-80 percent of the childhood survivors develop anxiety disorder, which leads to depression. In most serious cases, adults exhibit the signs of chronic stress disorder.

    • Post traumatic disorder is invariably experienced after physical or emotional abuse. The person who had experienced child abuse will continue going through an unbearable pain for years. Abused survivors ironically feel certain amount of guilt and ashamed. The story remains untold because of the deepest fear of being ridiculed or laughed at. Many studies indicate that while going through the healing process an individual will experience number of negative emotions; flashback of all those traumatic times will haunt you. All these reactions will be normal – don’t get dishearten, you are not alone.
    • Instead of going through the hurt in isolation, it will be better if you can share your story with any of your trusted friend or a family member. Never allow the negative feelings to devour you in any ways. You have confronted a great challenge and it’s a courageous step to muster up strength to relive the abuse and heal yourself from the torture. If you don’t really trust someone you can always consult a trusted counselor or you can easily write bogs online and share your story, this way you can let out your emotions without disclosing your real identity.
    • It is important to take out your subdued emotions from your mind and heart, if you compose it down in some way you are reliving yourself. If you are still in touch with the sexual abuser, then you will have a burning spirit to take revenge. Many victims don’t really want to face the abuser again in their lives; they prefer eradicating the picture of the abuser from their mind. In some cases you can’t avoid the abuser, for example if he/she is your family member or your friend.

      Do you ever ponder if the abuser is still harassing someone? The possibility is yes.

      Do you want one more person to go through the same suffering which you have faced for many years?

      Don’t you want him to be punished before he/she again entraps one more innocent child?

      • Indeed it’s difficult to confront the abuser, but remember! It will make you a stronger person, and you will actually be saving many more children from going through the same trauma. Seek support from your family who care for you and the community you are living in, the support system is very essential. People who commit these immoral acts have to be held responsible, and the only way we can make them accountable is by stopping them.
      • In most cases the abuser will never admit that he/she actually committed the crime. These days you have number of organizations like NGO’s safeguarding the interests of the sexually abused victims, childhood abuse is a dreadful crime and punishable by law. In most countries there is enough legal precedent to prosecute the crime. Don’t be afraid, you need to combat this stage in your life by punishing the one who had damaged your soul. You need to stand up and fight it out before someone else gets trapped in the abusers immoral deeds.

      hurt of an abused child

      • Child abuse is completely an act of human degradation; all of us should come forward to help those people who have suffered. Your life and your past childhood moments are precious and no one else has a right to damage that innocence. I really hope that all of us will discuss it more openly so that victims of sexual abuse will not hesitate or get scared to share their horrendous experiences. Unfortunately, not many people come forth to share their stories, don’t feel isolated you can provide a new lease to your life.

      I wrote this article in April2008 for a blog called embraceyourlove.

Can Just A Name Endanger The Future Of The Child – The Answer Is Yes!

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parenting

  • Needles to say, every parent gets so excited about giving their child a beautiful name. Some parents even go to an extent of researching the most beautiful name that has some meaning to it. But little did I know that there are some parents that would give a disgraceful name to their own child.

  • Actually, in December what happened that a shop declined Mr Campbell son’s name (Adolf Hitler ) to be iced on his birthday cake. What I feel is that “Adolf Hiter” is not just a name it has heartbreaking history to it. It’s a complete insane act to label/name your child “Adolf Hitler”

  • Alright, the kid doesn’t understand that what exactly Adolf Hitler stands for, but at least the parents should understand what Adolf Hitler had been associated with in the past and how “we the people” remember him..

  • I am sure all of you must be curious to know that why they chose to name their child “Adolf Hitler”? I was equally inquisitive. The report suggests, Mr Campbell said that he selected this name because he thought that this name would be unique as no one will ever be interested to have this name. And moreover, he liked the name!

  • Woof! I will never in my wildest dream can think of associating my child with any of the cruel characters or personalities. Are they seeking for some kind of media or public attention ? Without any doubt, Yes! I know there is nothing in the name but isn’t this case conveys different perspective? Alright, this doesn’t fall under child abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse but still there are some disturbing strings attached to it. Right ?

Please go ahead and Share your views about it..

Physical Child Abuse Awareness : Stop Child Abuse Now

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emotional impact of physical child abuse

• The story of Physical child abuse is almost every family’s story. Though the intensity of it varies, the psychological affect of physical abuse leaves a long lasting disturbing emotional impact on the child’s mind.
• I am sure you must have witnessed parents beating their children. Though the parents define their acts “that is required to discipline their child”. Little do they know that how their physical abuse disturbs the child’s peace of mind for years to come? In most cases, people take years to overcome their past physical child abuse.

• It’s quite common for parents to force their children to act and behave in a certain way. Research suggests, that those parents who couldn’t achieve what they wanted to in their lives they start expecting their own children to fulfill their dreams.

• As a result, physically abused child shows troublesome behavior for many years to come. The ability of the child to cope with the memories of the physical abuse depends upon the brutality of the physical abuse.

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• The common perception that parents hold is that they don’t beat their children aggressively. HOLD ON! It doesn’t matter whether you beat them frequently or rarely the impact of physical abuse will leave an everlasting impact on your child’s mind.

• In the same way it doesn’t matter if you beat your children severely or just using your fist or slapping your children. The harm to the child’s emotional state is already done once you start behaving aggressively with your child.

• Generally, you will find parents who expect their children to overdo other children in every possible field. The desire to feel proud in front of others parents can make the parents go to any extent, even if it requires beating their own child.

• This should STOP NOW…