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Do men in power easily get away after cheating on their wives ?

Do “we the people” rate our politicians based on their personal or professional lives?

My Take On It :-

I personally don’t really give a shit on what these politicians are up to in their personal lives– It’s not about why politicians cheat ? They cheat almost for the same reason like anyone else does. Point here is why men cheat or why women cheat ?

Recently, I read the news about one more politician cheating on his wife.

Jenny Sanford, wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford , speaks about her husband’s recent affair admission.

She says “South Carolina first lady Jenny Sanford says her husband’s affair with an Argentine woman broke a trust that he must earn back — first from his family, then his constituents”

Why do some women/men give a second chance to their partners?

Ø To save the marriage ?

Ø Or to get regular financial support?

Ø For the sake of their kids?

Ø Or because they are not strong enough to walk out of the relationship and lead a new life?

Ø Or because they feel threatened from their partners and don’t speak out against them and continues enduring the pain of betrayal in the relationship ?

Every relationship requires hell lot of effort to gain trust for each other. Then how can anyone put that on stake for just few minutes of pleasure?

What men really want ? Have you ever realized how men behave differently with women who are independent (Here I mean financially independent women ) and those who are earning moderately and those who are just home makers.

• Few days back I was wondering on how the society rate men based on their ability to support the family financially. Later, it made me think few things about men also. I think Men rate women based on their careers.

• In relationships women face different career choices based on the situation. Usually, it happens during the time when you choose to have kids. Sometimes, you will find women leaving their careers after having kids. And those women who wish to go on a job hunt after few years of kid growing up find it extremely difficult to get a hold on their careers .

• Most of them end up compromising on their careers and choose options where they can manage kids and simultaneously can earn enough. This leave them with few options, either look for part time jobs , or work from home . In majority of the cases women are not paid well, they work for the sake of money and end up loosing interest in life .

• On the other hand, you will find some women who choose to take care of the kids instead of hiring a nanny. They end up loosing their jobs – become financially dependent on their husbands. And in case the relationship doesn’t work out, then they will be in deep shit. Because she decides to quit her career and take care of the house, kids and the family. That’s why women who choose to take care of the kids and be the homemaker feel less confident than working women. This may lead to insecurities in life about the future

• Few days back I went on a dinner to my friend’s house, we talked about men in general!!! What Italian men think? What kind of relationship Indian or American men want? All of my friends have the same view on – men respect women if they are financially independent.

• Then I had a conversation with one of my male friend – who thinks women are weaker than men. Therefore, if men find financially independent women they feel more attracted towards them. I totally disagree with his opinion. My mother worked all her life, took care of us, handled household work and what not. Does that make her weak?

• And even if some women are not earning and just taking care of the kids and the house- That doesn’t make them weak? MIND IT - Taking care of the house and the kids is not a joyride.

Love actually is a great Romantic film full of emotions and comedy.

There are many love stories emerged in the film. I usually catch it up on cable, I have watched it several times as I really liked some of the love stories which are quite realistic in our day to day lives. I wanna share some of the stories and why I liked it.

Love Story of Keira Knightley, Chiwetel Ejiofor and Andrew Lincoln

Keira Knightley gets married to Chiwetel Ejiofor in a beautiful ceremony. Andrew Lincoln has a secret crush on Keira. He video tapes Keira in her wedding ceremony. One fine day she turns up at Andrew’s house and watches the video tape of her wedding. All she finds is her clippings in the video tape and she soon realizes that he has deep feelings for her. She finds it shocking because Andrew has always been unfriendly to her.

Later on the Christmas Eve he shows up and says without any hope and agenda I want to say that you are perfect. As he leaves Keira runs after him and gives a kiss. And then Andrew says to himself - enough now it’s time to move on with life.

 This story is one of my favorite because it’s quite realistic. I am sure there are so many people out there who are quite reluctant in expressing their love and then they end up loosing them. Secondly, I don’t really support the actions of Andrew who approached Leira after she got married. I find it weird and quite unacceptable if you approach a married person and say you are in love with him/her. Just my personal thought!

 Second love story of Colin Firth and Lucia Moniz

 Colin discovers his girl friend in a sexual encounter with his brother. He finds himself totally heartbroken and heads to his French Cottage. There he meets Lucia who doesn’t speak in English. Irrespective of the language barrier they communicate with each other so beautifully. Later, Colin plans to return back to London. Before leaving the way they look at each other and expresses themselves without uttering a single word is so amazing. He takes up Portuguese language course and on the Christmas Eve he comes back to Marseille. He goes to a Portuguese restaurant where Aurelia started working. He proposes her in a broken Portuguese language and she accepts his proposal in English which she also learned when he was away.

 The reason this love story is my favorite is because of the way they communicated through their eyes and later made an initiative to learn each other’s language.

 Third Love Story

Alan Rickman is working in a design agency and having a mid- life crisis, that makes him feel attracted to his secretary who is also showing a clear sign of being interested. He gets an expensive necklace for his secretary as a Christmas gift. Later his wife discovers the necklace in his coat and presumes that it’s for her. But all she gets as a Christmas gift is a CD. She obviously realizes that her husband is having an extra marital affair. She doesn’t encounter her husband or questions him. As she didn’t want to spoil her kids day, so she goes to the bedroom and burst into tears. After few days she opens up to her husband ad says “You have made a fool out of me” But as time passes by she gives him a second chance. And then they slowly come to terms of working out their relationship.

My opinion about this love story is opposite of what happens. There should not be any second chance to a situation like this. If your wife/husband ditches you then for the sake of your self esteem just fuckin walk out of the relationship.

Fourth story is the cutest love story.

Liam Neeson’s wife dies after a long illness. Now Liam is just left with his stepson Sam hardly 11 years old. One fine day Sam shares his secret love for a girl in his school. The boy sees Billy Mack’s video and realizes that girls fall for musicians. Liam encourages him to learn how to play drums. Sam plays drums for Joanna while she sings in the Christmas performance “ All I Want For Christmas Is You”. But unfortunately, Sam is unable to grab Joana’s attention. Later, he comes to know that Joana is leaving to the United States. Liam encourages him to meet Joana at the airport.

Once they reach the airport they find Joanna heading to board the flight with her family. As expected the attendant refuses to allow Sam to cross the security check. Dramatically, the attendant gets distracted by another passenger enabling Sam to sneak in. He manages to get through Joanna and confesses his love for her and leaves. Joanna runs back to him and gives him a kiss on his cheek. He obviously gets startled and later curses himself of not giving her a kiss back.

This love story is mine and hubby’s favorite!!!!!

On the same day that Chris Brown is expected in court in Los Angeles over his alleged February 8 assault on Rihanna, the city’s Fox 11 News released what it claims are details of the search warrant in the case. According to Fox, the warrant provides details on the alleged altercation.

 

The warrant reportedly says that Rihanna and Brown were driving in his rented Lamborghini when Rihanna read him a three-page text message from an unidentified woman. An argument reportedly ensued. The report alleges that Brown tried to force Rihanna out of the car, but could not move her because she was wearing a seat belt.

TMZ reported that Brown then allegedly shoved Rihanna’s head against the passenger window and, when she turned to face him, then allegedly struck her several times while driving, according to the search warrant. The alleged assault resulted in Rihanna’s blood splattering on the interior of the car and her dress.

 

At some point during the alleged altercation, Rihanna reportedly called one of her assistants and told her to call police, saying “I am on my way home. Make sure the cops are there when I get there,” to which Brown allegedly replied, “You just did the stupidest thing ever. I’m going to kill you.” TMZ reported that Brown allegedly told Rihanna, “I’m going to beat the sh– out of you when we get home. You wait and see.” The site also reported that during the fight, Brown allegedly continued to punch Rihanna, bit her on the ear and her fingers, and put her in a headlock, almost causing her to lose consciousness.

 

The alleged verbal threats led to Brown’s arrest on the night of the Grammy Awards on suspicion of criminal threats; he was released on $50,000 bail and could be arraigned on Thursday (March 5). While Rihanna has never been identified as the victim in the case by police, a number of media outlets have said she was the woman with whom police allege Brown had an altercation; TMZ released a photo of a battered-looking Rihanna late last month.

 

Brown said he was “sorry and saddened” by the alleged incident, but has not made any further comments regarding what happened that night and his spokespeople have not returned calls for comment. Rihanna issued a statement saying she is “doing well” and thanked fans for their support.

I remember months back I had a discussion with this Page 3 lady who organized a group discussion with some of the foreign students. The topic of the discussion was how women in India get treated in the rural areas. How badly they get beaten up for no reason. Then she turned the discussion towards the Nithari Case . She went on and on and on in disgracing India’s image.

Needless to say, these are true incident’s that literally happens in India. BUT HOLD ON. Does it only happen in India? Do Indian women get beaten up in the rural parts of India only? Recent example of Chris Brown beating up Rihana like a peace of crap clearly proves that women get victimized by men in every part of the world.

The percentage of Domestic violence in the US is also shooting sky high. This is not the first case of brutality towards women , there are thousands of unregistered high profile cases where women are too afraid to come forward to share their story. And as far as stories like Nithari case is concerned. What about the many cases of serial killers in the US ? Or for that matter in any part of the world.

No matter in which part of the world it happens, indeed its unfortunate when human beings turn into monsters. So now coming back to that Page3 lady who was just highlighting the bad side of India – She was born and brought up in India. She has been living in India all her life. Why the hell is she still living in India if all she wants to depict is the bad side of India which she truly despises? All I wanna say to her is CUT the crap you page 3 woman.

Note: Fight against Domestic Violence. Don’t be afraid to fight for your own rights. There can’t be any justification in defending your actions of brutality towards your partner . The utmost important thing in a relationship is respect for each other. If that pillar is missing then there is no point in carrying the relationship forward.

Who to trust Who not to trust? Who to look up to? Who to despise?

• All our lives we get trapped in our struggle to find someone we can trust blindly. How many of us find someone to whom we can rely upon knowing that your trust will never be broken. Each one of us has got hurt in some or the other relationship. And after a point we say to ourselves that we won’t trust anyone. But after a while with time you face an undeniable reality that without love there is no meaning of life. And then you end up again trusting someone all over again - fearing what if you get hurt again. But can you really love and care someone with this fear in your mind that WHAT IF? I don’t think so!

• With the fear of an unknown how can you love someone wholeheartedly? How can you take a guarantee of the other person that he/she will never betray you? Whether it’s your friends, colleagues, love of life , relatives or family members, your relationship with each one of them will go through ups and downs. Some relationships will be lost forever, some will be by your side and some will turn into strangers. Isn’t our journey of life quite amazing?

• At some phase of our life we get so attached to someone that you can’t even imagine living without them. But with time how drastically relationships/ people change that you can never imagine. And then in the end the blaming game starts which not only lead to the breakup of the relationship but also creates lot of bitterness.

• The only philosophy of my life is to live in the moment.Don’t trust people easily, take your time to gain and build trust on someone? The only person you can trust blindly first is yourself. So first trust your instincts! If you want to have trust on someone then first do your part of gaining the trust of the other person. And under no circumstances never break your loved ones trust.

Every relationship starts with trust and ends because of trust issues!