In my opinion the most important tool for any relationship is “TRUST” . Once you are in a relationship, you promise to share your happiness and sorrows with each other but how many of us are comfortable in sharing their privacy?

If you are in a relationship then often you are asked to tell the password of your email accounts or bank accounts. The very question is do you need to share your passwords to prove your commitment towards your partner. The very question that pops up on my mind Is What causes the need to demand your partner to disclose his/her passwords? Is it a matter of your lack of faith on your partner? Or it’s a sign of insecurity towards your partner?

Some people question that why do couples who are committed or are married needs to be under surveillance all the time. Some people demand space before and after getting into a relationship, if you fall in the same category then obviously you will have issues in sharing your passwords with your partner. Does that mean your love is not enough? Does it complicates the relationship?

Personally speaking there should not be any hesitation in sharing your passwords with your partner. The very basic criteria to feel comfortable in sharing your passwords depends upon how strong your relationship is. If you trust your partner and know that he/she will never ever misuse the money or won’t ever play with your email accounts then it’s perfectly fine to share your passwords.
What’s your take on it?

Stories of Tiger Woods Betrayal , Ronnie Wood cheating his wife after 24 years of marriage and hooking up with a 21 year old Russian girl. Latest news of Sandra Bullock’s Husband extramarital affair with a tattoo model and how can you forget Mel Gibson’s extramarital affairs . For a matter of fact the stories of betrayals are endless. Needless to say, you will find more men cheating on their wives and girlfriends and vice versa. In no ways I am defending women! But if you see the stats then it’s quite evident that men tend to cheat on their partners are far more.

When women accuse the new love of their man then I find it a bit weird. Why women are hounding the other “girl in the picture”? Is your husband a dead brain that he doesn’t know how to control his emotions? Instead of accusing the other girl for enticing their husbands to leave their wives?!!!

The reason why I am writing an article on this topic is because today I was reading a article where wives literally pay other women to sleep with their husbands. The woman will find out on the request of the wives or girlfriends to what extent their husbands or boyfriends will go. These women are hired by detectives and get paid!

Some people are accusing “honey trappers ” for entrapment. Again I totally disagree with it! If your husband is loyal to you then no matter what happens your husband will not get trapped in any kind of sexual temptation . Why don’t you expect your husband to say “No” to any sort of sexual encounter??

There is one more series same as that of “Cheaters ”. First they keep a watch on the suspect to ascertain if the suspect is seeing someone else. Later an agent approaches the “Suspect” in a friendly way. And if the person shows interest, then the agent pursues it further to find out to what extent the man or the woman can go!!

I find it quite interesting! Though I will never hire a honey trapper to hit on my husband; in no way I suspect the loyalty of my husband. In case you think your relation is not working then it’s better to talk it out or hire a relationship counselor . Later, if you think your relationship hasn’t worked out then “Honey trapper” will definitely give answers to your questions.

Till then don’t monitor your husbands let them free. Sooner or later if they are going to make the “Cardinal Sin” you need to be smart enough to CATCH THEM!

Do men in power easily get away after cheating on their wives ?

Do “we the people” rate our politicians based on their personal or professional lives?

My Take On It :-

I personally don’t really give a shit on what these politicians are up to in their personal lives– It’s not about why politicians cheat ? They cheat almost for the same reason like anyone else does. Point here is why men cheat or why women cheat ?

Recently, I read the news about one more politician cheating on his wife.

Jenny Sanford, wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford , speaks about her husband’s recent affair admission.

She says “South Carolina first lady Jenny Sanford says her husband’s affair with an Argentine woman broke a trust that he must earn back — first from his family, then his constituents”

Why do some women/men give a second chance to their partners?

Ø To save the marriage ?

Ø Or to get regular financial support?

Ø For the sake of their kids?

Ø Or because they are not strong enough to walk out of the relationship and lead a new life?

Ø Or because they feel threatened from their partners and don’t speak out against them and continues enduring the pain of betrayal in the relationship ?

Every relationship requires hell lot of effort to gain trust for each other. Then how can anyone put that on stake for just few minutes of pleasure?

What men really want ? Have you ever realized how men behave differently with women who are independent (Here I mean financially independent women ) and those who are earning moderately and those who are just home makers.

• Few days back I was wondering on how the society rate men based on their ability to support the family financially. Later, it made me think few things about men also. I think Men rate women based on their careers.

• In relationships women face different career choices based on the situation. Usually, it happens during the time when you choose to have kids. Sometimes, you will find women leaving their careers after having kids. And those women who wish to go on a job hunt after few years of kid growing up find it extremely difficult to get a hold on their careers .

• Most of them end up compromising on their careers and choose options where they can manage kids and simultaneously can earn enough. This leave them with few options, either look for part time jobs , or work from home . In majority of the cases women are not paid well, they work for the sake of money and end up loosing interest in life .

• On the other hand, you will find some women who choose to take care of the kids instead of hiring a nanny. They end up loosing their jobs – become financially dependent on their husbands. And in case the relationship doesn’t work out, then they will be in deep shit. Because she decides to quit her career and take care of the house, kids and the family. That’s why women who choose to take care of the kids and be the homemaker feel less confident than working women. This may lead to insecurities in life about the future

• Few days back I went on a dinner to my friend’s house, we talked about men in general!!! What Italian men think? What kind of relationship Indian or American men want? All of my friends have the same view on – men respect women if they are financially independent.

• Then I had a conversation with one of my male friend – who thinks women are weaker than men. Therefore, if men find financially independent women they feel more attracted towards them. I totally disagree with his opinion. My mother worked all her life, took care of us, handled household work and what not. Does that make her weak?

• And even if some women are not earning and just taking care of the kids and the house- That doesn’t make them weak? MIND IT – Taking care of the house and the kids is not a joyride.

Love actually is a great Romantic film full of emotions and comedy.

There are many love stories emerged in the film. I usually catch it up on cable, I have watched it several times as I really liked some of the love stories which are quite realistic in our day to day lives. I wanna share some of the stories and why I liked it.

Love Story of Keira Knightley, Chiwetel Ejiofor and Andrew Lincoln

Keira Knightley gets married to Chiwetel Ejiofor in a beautiful ceremony. Andrew Lincoln has a secret crush on Keira. He video tapes Keira in her wedding ceremony. One fine day she turns up at Andrew’s house and watches the video tape of her wedding. All she finds is her clippings in the video tape and she soon realizes that he has deep feelings for her. She finds it shocking because Andrew has always been unfriendly to her.

Later on the Christmas Eve he shows up and says without any hope and agenda I want to say that you are perfect. As he leaves Keira runs after him and gives a kiss. And then Andrew says to himself – enough now it’s time to move on with life.

This story is one of my favorite because it’s quite realistic. I am sure there are so many people out there who are quite reluctant in expressing their love and then they end up loosing them. Secondly, I don’t really support the actions of Andrew who approached Leira after she got married. I find it weird and quite unacceptable if you approach a married person and say you are in love with him/her. Just my personal thought!

Second love story of Colin Firth and Lucia Moniz

Colin discovers his girl friend in a sexual encounter with his brother. He finds himself totally heartbroken and heads to his French Cottage.

There he meets Lucia who doesn’t speak in English. Irrespective of the language barrier they communicate with each other so beautifully. Later, Colin plans to return back to London. Before leaving the way they look at each other and expresses themselves without uttering a single word is so amazing. He takes up Portuguese language course and on the Christmas Eve he comes back to Marseille. He goes to a Portuguese restaurant where Aurelia started working. He proposes her in a broken Portuguese language and she accepts his proposal in English which she also learned when he was away.

The reason this love story is my favorite is because of the way they communicated through their eyes and later made an initiative to learn each other’s language.

Third Love Story

Alan Rickman is working in a design agency and having a mid- life crisis, that makes him feel attracted to his secretary who is also showing a clear sign of being interested. He gets an expensive necklace for his secretary as a Christmas gift. Later his wife discovers the necklace in his coat and presumes that it’s for her. But all she gets as a Christmas gift is a CD. She obviously realizes that her husband is having an extra marital affair. She doesn’t encounter her husband or questions him. As she didn’t want to spoil her kids day, so she goes to the bedroom and burst into tears. After few days she opens up to her husband ad says “You have made a fool out of me” But as time passes by she gives him a second chance. And then they slowly come to terms of working out their relationship.

My opinion about this love story is opposite of what happens. There should not be any second chance to a situation like this. If your wife/husband ditches you then for the sake of your self esteem just fuckin walk out of the relationship.

Fourth story is the cutest love story.

Liam Neeson’s wife dies after a long illness. Now Liam is just left with his stepson Sam hardly 11 years old. One fine day Sam shares his secret love for a girl in his school. The boy sees Billy Mack’s video and realizes that girls fall for musicians. Liam encourages him to learn how to play drums. Sam plays drums for Joanna while she sings in the Christmas performance “ All I Want For Christmas Is You”. But unfortunately, Sam is unable to grab Joana’s attention. Later, he comes to know that Joana is leaving to the United States. Liam encourages him to meet Joana at the airport.

Once they reach the airport they find Joanna heading to board the flight with her family. As expected the attendant refuses to allow Sam to cross the security check. Dramatically, the attendant gets distracted by another passenger enabling Sam to sneak in. He manages to get through Joanna and confesses his love for her and leaves. Joanna runs back to him and gives him a kiss on his cheek. He obviously gets startled and later curses himself of not giving her a kiss back.
This love story is mine and hubby’s favorite!!!!!