Let’s Share The Story Of Our Lives!

On the same day that Chris Brown is expected in court in Los Angeles over his alleged February 8 assault on Rihanna, the city’s Fox 11 News released what it claims are details of the search warrant in the case. According to Fox, the warrant provides details on the alleged altercation.

 

The warrant reportedly says that Rihanna and Brown were driving in his rented Lamborghini when Rihanna read him a three-page text message from an unidentified woman. An argument reportedly ensued. The report alleges that Brown tried to force Rihanna out of the car, but could not move her because she was wearing a seat belt.

TMZ reported that Brown then allegedly shoved Rihanna’s head against the passenger window and, when she turned to face him, then allegedly struck her several times while driving, according to the search warrant. The alleged assault resulted in Rihanna’s blood splattering on the interior of the car and her dress.

 

At some point during the alleged altercation, Rihanna reportedly called one of her assistants and told her to call police, saying “I am on my way home. Make sure the cops are there when I get there,” to which Brown allegedly replied, “You just did the stupidest thing ever. I’m going to kill you.” TMZ reported that Brown allegedly told Rihanna, “I’m going to beat the sh– out of you when we get home. You wait and see.” The site also reported that during the fight, Brown allegedly continued to punch Rihanna, bit her on the ear and her fingers, and put her in a headlock, almost causing her to lose consciousness.

 

The alleged verbal threats led to Brown’s arrest on the night of the Grammy Awards on suspicion of criminal threats; he was released on $50,000 bail and could be arraigned on Thursday (March 5). While Rihanna has never been identified as the victim in the case by police, a number of media outlets have said she was the woman with whom police allege Brown had an altercation; TMZ released a photo of a battered-looking Rihanna late last month.

 

Brown said he was “sorry and saddened” by the alleged incident, but has not made any further comments regarding what happened that night and his spokespeople have not returned calls for comment. Rihanna issued a statement saying she is “doing well” and thanked fans for their support.

I remember months back I had a discussion with this Page 3 lady who organized a group discussion with some of the foreign students. The topic of the discussion was how women in India get treated in the rural areas. How badly they get beaten up for no reason. Then she turned the discussion towards the Nithari Case . She went on and on and on in disgracing India’s image.

Needless to say, these are true incident’s that literally happens in India. BUT HOLD ON. Does it only happen in India? Do Indian women get beaten up in the rural parts of India only? Recent example of Chris Brown beating up Rihana like a peace of crap clearly proves that women get victimized by men in every part of the world.

The percentage of Domestic violence in the US is also shooting sky high. This is not the first case of brutality towards women , there are thousands of unregistered high profile cases where women are too afraid to come forward to share their story. And as far as stories like Nithari case is concerned. What about the many cases of serial killers in the US ? Or for that matter in any part of the world.

No matter in which part of the world it happens, indeed its unfortunate when human beings turn into monsters. So now coming back to that Page3 lady who was just highlighting the bad side of India – She was born and brought up in India. She has been living in India all her life. Why the hell is she still living in India if all she wants to depict is the bad side of India which she truly despises? All I wanna say to her is CUT the crap you page 3 woman.

Note: Fight against Domestic Violence. Don’t be afraid to fight for your own rights. There can’t be any justification in defending your actions of brutality towards your partner . The utmost important thing in a relationship is respect for each other. If that pillar is missing then there is no point in carrying the relationship forward.

Who to trust Who not to trust? Who to look up to? Who to despise?

• All our lives we get trapped in our struggle to find someone we can trust blindly. How many of us find someone to whom we can rely upon knowing that your trust will never be broken. Each one of us has got hurt in some or the other relationship. And after a point we say to ourselves that we won’t trust anyone. But after a while with time you face an undeniable reality that without love there is no meaning of life. And then you end up again trusting someone all over again - fearing what if you get hurt again. But can you really love and care someone with this fear in your mind that WHAT IF? I don’t think so!

• With the fear of an unknown how can you love someone wholeheartedly? How can you take a guarantee of the other person that he/she will never betray you? Whether it’s your friends, colleagues, love of life , relatives or family members, your relationship with each one of them will go through ups and downs. Some relationships will be lost forever, some will be by your side and some will turn into strangers. Isn’t our journey of life quite amazing?

• At some phase of our life we get so attached to someone that you can’t even imagine living without them. But with time how drastically relationships/ people change that you can never imagine. And then in the end the blaming game starts which not only lead to the breakup of the relationship but also creates lot of bitterness.

• The only philosophy of my life is to live in the moment.Don’t trust people easily, take your time to gain and build trust on someone? The only person you can trust blindly first is yourself. So first trust your instincts! If you want to have trust on someone then first do your part of gaining the trust of the other person. And under no circumstances never break your loved ones trust.

Every relationship starts with trust and ends because of trust issues!

• I don’t know why all of a sudden this song just came to my mind. There comes a phase in our life when each one of us can relate to this song. It’s from the movie "kareeb". The movie didn’t do well, but the songs were loved. It’s in the list of the most romantic songs .

• Yesterday I was talking to hubby about "Do we love just once in our lifetime?" "Does love happens just once in our life time?" We all know that not all the love stories have a happy end. If you love someone then to what extent you can go to be with the person for rest of your life

• I have heard and seen so many relationships that at one point seem so fulfilling that you start dreaming to have that kind of relationship. But after a while you come to know that the couples are not together anymore. Most of the breakups happen because of cultural differences, family restrictions, extra marital affairs and compatibility issues .

• I wonder that how come these obstacles force the lovers to breakup. Isn’t good for you to come out of the relationship when you see your partner not by your side in tough situations like these? What’s the guarantee that he/she will stick to you for rest of his/her life? Every relationship requires a great deal of effort to overcome certain issues that are bound to happen in our life. If you are not willing and gutsy enough to tackle the issues then how can it be love? There are a lot of questions that are cropping up in my mind. In the coming posts I will share my thoughts on the capital “C” of Commitment !

· I remember a discussion with one of my friend on how beautiful girls and average looking girls think differently and how men perceive them. He said that average looking girls don’t flirt around much because they know that they are just average looking and if they flirt around then that can hamper their reputation. On the other hand, beautiful girls are more in demand and even if they flirt around still they will get loads of proposals at their doorstep.

· Secondly, average looking girls are easy to approach and have no hang ups. On the contrary, beautiful girls are surrounded by many offers after all beauty rules. Thirdly, average looking girls are less demanding and are willing to compromise. They are satisfied with what they have, unlike beautiful girls who crave for more materialistic things and never compromise with anything.

· Average girls are more caring not like beautiful girls who are self obsessed with their looks and makeup. And in the end he said most of all average girls are more committed to the relationship than beautiful girls. Therefore, men feel more secured with average looking girls because beautiful girls are surrounded by more offers all the time.

· My reaction to my friend :- First and the foremost thing is that it’s ridiculous to categorize beautiful girls Vs Average Looking Girls . Every girl is beautiful in her own way. There is no point in differentiating between "so called" Average Looking Girls and Beautiful Girls. But still I would like to share my response to my friend who raised this conversation.  Firstly, What girls think and how they think has nothing to do with their outer beauty. Every girl has different opinions, thoughts, values, dreams, wants and desires. It has nothing to do with their personality.

· Both average looking girls and beautiful girls look for a loving partner who is loyal, caring and responsible towards his family. If any girl chooses to flirt around and have a time pass affair then it’s entirely because of the kind of choice, outlook she has towards life and relationships. You can’t judge anyone just based on what kind of choices they make in life.

· And as far as commitments and compromises are concerned, again it depends on your perspective towards life. If a girl is in love with some guy then all the 3 C’s will come naturally. (Compromises, Commitments, Care ). You can win any girls heart and be with her for rest of your life only if your love is unconditional. Therefore, it’s absurd to think that men feel more secured with average looking girls than beautiful girls.

· I want to share one more incident. There is one uncle who once was talking to my brother about this wedding he attended. He was like the wedding was organized beautifully and the girl’s family spend a lot of money in organizing the event. Then after a while he went to the extent of saying – No matter how much they spend and have entertained their guests in the most lavish way BUT BUT The girl was not beautiful at all. The minute he said that I raised my eyebrows and said that it’s completely presumptuous to have an opinion like that. What difference it’s going to make whether the girl is average looking or beautiful.

· He questioned me “for you what matters?” I said all that matters is the nature of the girl. He smiled sarcastically and said “I know they had to spend a lot on the wedding because their daughter was not beautiful” I was disgusted with his statement and said I guess for you marriage is just a business deal. You will choose a proposal based on how much money you can make. I gave him a sickened expression and just walked away. I guess in today’s time men don’t just run for beauty. May be its different when it’s just for time pass affair or dating then it’s a different case. But when it comes to a long term commitment then men need more than just beauty. Irrespective of what I have written above still you will find thousands of marriage proposals stating " Extremely Beautiful, Fair, Slim, Working and Rich Girl Wanted! Am I Right? All I can say that those men who think like this don’t deserve to be your partner. And those men who blame their family that they will find a proposal for them - then they are not capable of taking a stand of their own. So how can any girl entrust her whole life to this kind of man?

Hubby Wishing you a very happy birthday.

• We have been together for so many years and have celebrated many memorable occasions together. When I look back and see the most romantic and cherished moments it was all because of you. You always say that I don’t express my love in words. With time I have noticed that I do feel shy in opening up my heart to you. I remember the first love letter you had written to me when I went to Bangkok.

I really don’t know how to write a love letter!! Frankly speaking I’m bit reluctant to write all this because I’m not sure if I will get it right or not.. As it’s your birthday so I want everything to be just perfect.

I will start by expressing the one thing that I cherish the most with you is curling up with you on the bed before sleeping, feeling the warmth of your skin by resting my head on your shoulder and you kissing me on my head and lips! Every morning after waking up the way you hold me tightly and we pulling up the blanket over our head and whispering things to each other. Our toes tenderly touching each others toes underneath the blanket! It’s so fulfilling and amazing that how we have been doing this every day for years and still do it - still need it badly.

Walking down the street wrapping my hands around your hands - feeling the breeze fiddling with my hair- Ah I absolutely love it. Does that sound like typically Yash Chopra’s romantic movies scripts!!

• I still feel your first kiss when we were coming from Etopia ( though I always complain that how dare you kiss me when I was sleeping!!! but without any doubt that was the most cherished kiss of my entire life) You always express your love openly but I have always struggled to do that. It’s been years and years of knowing each other and even now our relationship feels so fresh, as if we are still dating! I think the real romance starts after getting married when you actually get to spend quality time together.

• Every morning – Every night you make me feel loved with your touch and warmth. Just your way of holding my face and looking into my eyes says it all. It makes me feel blessed when every friend of mine tells me how lucky I am to have you in my life as my soul mate. Once when I was in college my friend told me after 2 years of any marriage the romance goes away. I actually believed her because I had seen many couples totally occupied in their careers and setting financial goals that they tend to drift apart slowly. But with you it’s been years and years - with time we have become One. You know how hard it gets to even sleep without you, forget about staying away from you.

• We have been by each others side in all the rough situations all through the time. You remember the first romantic song that you sung to me – Jab koi baat bigad jaye Jab koi mushkil pad jaye Tum dena sath mera o humnavawaz. It’s so fulfilling to see how both of us have supported each other at times when we needed each other the most. The real test of any relationship comes when you see someone you loved the most by your side. It’s so gratifying how both of us value the commitment towards our relationship.

• We all know relationships are not easy it requires a lot of sacrifices, compromises, care and time. Every thing falls on its place when you have someone who loves you. This time when I was alone for few days without you in India I missed you the most. I miss Little Little moments about living with you.

• Your presence around me in the house, when I cook you hugging me from the back, opening the door for you every evening and giving you a kiss, making coffe for you, going out for movies together, deciding on which restaurant to go, talking about politics, sports!!, watching Chelsea play at our favorite place, you making me sit on your lap like your baby and swinging me around, you quizzing me about music.

• You making your top 10 favorite band every month and signing it to make a record, lounging around and having a cup of coffe and talking about life in general, playing loud music in the car and singing together and how can I forget our crazy way of screaming competition, it’s so sweet how we dance daily for few minutes ( this time when I was in India I replaced you with gunna) Remember the way you roll me around and then make me bend … gunna literally enjoyed that style of dancing.

• It feels nice to be with you all the time. Wherever you go you make sure that I am with you. I have seen so many guys going out alone leaving their wives or girl friends alone but you are so unlike them. I always tell mummy that how my life changed for good after meeting you. Before knowing you I didn’t know jack about jack! You taught me so many things that brought confidence in me. The kind of respect you give it to me in front of your friends, clients, family and colleagues is so gratifying.
• Do you have a magic stick!! How you win everyone’s heart? Whether it’s my friends, my relatives or a complete stranger on the road you just gel with anyone. I just can’t seem to get this art of yours! It’s so amazing how easily you can bring a smile on anybody’s face within minutes. Teach me !!!!!! Some people say that when you love someone you don’t change the other person. But I completely disagree with it.

• When you love someone special you are willing to change anything to bring a smile on your love’s face. I am glad we respect each other’s individuality and at the same time we go out of way to make each other feel special in every possible way.

• Thanks for every effort you make to bring a smile on my face.
• Thanks for all the crazy things you do to make me laugh.
• Thanks for doing so much hard work to make our future secured.
• Thanks for all the love you have for my parents that they feel proud to have you as their son.
• Thanks for playing with gunna as you know what she means to me.
• Thanks for caressing me every night like a little child and making me go to sleep.
• Thanks for every day you say how much you love me .
• Thanks for all the little little lovely surprises you give me all the time even after all these years.
• Thanks for respecting me and my individuality and giving me enough freedom to do whatever I want.
• Thanks for cooking delicious food, you are a great chef!!!!!
• Thanks for all those hugs and kisses you do all the time.
• Thanks for learning badminton for me and beating all those people who were overconfident.
• Thanks for being protective towards me at every step.
• And thanks for letting me beat all those guys who tease girls!!!!!
• Thanks for understanding and appreciating how strongly I feel about helping needy people.
• Thanks for going to Vaishnodevi barefooted so many times and staying awake and watching over me so that I could sleep.
• Thanks for reading my blog and posting your comments.
• Thanks for putting your hand on my head whenever you pray. It makes me feel loved and cared.
• Thanks for always being committed to our love when things were tough.
• Thanks for your faith and loyalty towards our love to make the relationship stronger by each passing day.

The only complain I have with you is why didn’t you meet me long time back. We have missed so many years from our lives.