Transform Your Life – Overcome Your Abused Childhood Trauma

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child abuse victims

  • What is childhood abuse? It constitutes of any authoritative action of an adult towards a child. It includes revilement of a child in forms like neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse or any kind of emotional jesting etc. It severely damages the self esteem of the child and the suffering haunts the child for a long period. Needless to say, it demands a lot of courage to decipher because at times, the hurt from the childhood abuse becomes hard to cope up when you grow up. Some parents beat their children regularly and some never bother to provide basic affection rather they just want to gain control over their children.  Mistreatment totally changes the child’s psyche and continue to do so for years to come.

    Do you show the following symptoms of childhood abuse?

    1. • Learning problems
    2. • Deep sense of insecurity
    3. • Get oversensitive
    4. • Unable to trust people
    5. • Becomes violent and abusive
    6. • Get nightmares, sleeping disorder
    7. • Manic depression
    8. • Lack of self confidence
    9. • Low self esteem
    10. • Subdued Anger
    • These signs indicate that you went through a serious trauma in your childhood days. In many cases, the above characteristics become a personality trait and take a very long time to heal. We need to realize that child abuse is not just about scares or bruises; the impact lasts far beyond the physical pain. Experts have revealed that at least 30-80 percent of the childhood survivors develop anxiety disorder, which leads to depression. In most serious cases, adults exhibit the signs of chronic stress disorder.

    • Post traumatic disorder is invariably experienced after physical or emotional abuse. The person who had experienced child abuse will continue going through an unbearable pain for years. Abused survivors ironically feel certain amount of guilt and ashamed. The story remains untold because of the deepest fear of being ridiculed or laughed at. Many studies indicate that while going through the healing process an individual will experience number of negative emotions; flashback of all those traumatic times will haunt you. All these reactions will be normal – don’t get dishearten, you are not alone.
    • Instead of going through the hurt in isolation, it will be better if you can share your story with any of your trusted friend or a family member. Never allow the negative feelings to devour you in any ways. You have confronted a great challenge and it’s a courageous step to muster up strength to relive the abuse and heal yourself from the torture. If you don’t really trust someone you can always consult a trusted counselor or you can easily write bogs online and share your story, this way you can let out your emotions without disclosing your real identity.
    • It is important to take out your subdued emotions from your mind and heart, if you compose it down in some way you are reliving yourself. If you are still in touch with the sexual abuser, then you will have a burning spirit to take revenge. Many victims don’t really want to face the abuser again in their lives; they prefer eradicating the picture of the abuser from their mind. In some cases you can’t avoid the abuser, for example if he/she is your family member or your friend.

      Do you ever ponder if the abuser is still harassing someone? The possibility is yes.

      Do you want one more person to go through the same suffering which you have faced for many years?

      Don’t you want him to be punished before he/she again entraps one more innocent child?

      • Indeed it’s difficult to confront the abuser, but remember! It will make you a stronger person, and you will actually be saving many more children from going through the same trauma. Seek support from your family who care for you and the community you are living in, the support system is very essential. People who commit these immoral acts have to be held responsible, and the only way we can make them accountable is by stopping them.
      • In most cases the abuser will never admit that he/she actually committed the crime. These days you have number of organizations like NGO’s safeguarding the interests of the sexually abused victims, childhood abuse is a dreadful crime and punishable by law. In most countries there is enough legal precedent to prosecute the crime. Don’t be afraid, you need to combat this stage in your life by punishing the one who had damaged your soul. You need to stand up and fight it out before someone else gets trapped in the abusers immoral deeds.

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      • Child abuse is completely an act of human degradation; all of us should come forward to help those people who have suffered. Your life and your past childhood moments are precious and no one else has a right to damage that innocence. I really hope that all of us will discuss it more openly so that victims of sexual abuse will not hesitate or get scared to share their horrendous experiences. Unfortunately, not many people come forth to share their stories, don’t feel isolated you can provide a new lease to your life.

      I wrote this article in April2008 for a blog called embraceyourlove.

Can Just A Name Endanger The Future Of The Child – The Answer Is Yes!

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  • Needles to say, every parent gets so excited about giving their child a beautiful name. Some parents even go to an extent of researching the most beautiful name that has some meaning to it. But little did I know that there are some parents that would give a disgraceful name to their own child.

  • Actually, in December what happened that a shop declined Mr Campbell son’s name (Adolf Hitler ) to be iced on his birthday cake. What I feel is that “Adolf Hiter” is not just a name it has heartbreaking history to it. It’s a complete insane act to label/name your child “Adolf Hitler”

  • Alright, the kid doesn’t understand that what exactly Adolf Hitler stands for, but at least the parents should understand what Adolf Hitler had been associated with in the past and how “we the people” remember him..

  • I am sure all of you must be curious to know that why they chose to name their child “Adolf Hitler”? I was equally inquisitive. The report suggests, Mr Campbell said that he selected this name because he thought that this name would be unique as no one will ever be interested to have this name. And moreover, he liked the name!

  • Woof! I will never in my wildest dream can think of associating my child with any of the cruel characters or personalities. Are they seeking for some kind of media or public attention ? Without any doubt, Yes! I know there is nothing in the name but isn’t this case conveys different perspective? Alright, this doesn’t fall under child abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse but still there are some disturbing strings attached to it. Right ?

Please go ahead and Share your views about it..

How Can You Justify Polygamy? –Who To Blame?

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Why polygamy is still being practiced?

  • How can anyone justify “polygamy” as a religious belief?
  • And how can the government re-establish the women who have been the victim of polygamy? In the past the way the government did was taking away all the kids from the polygamy women. Will it resolve the issue??
  • Let’s discuss on the ways to eradicate the religious belief which is attached with polygamy. Is Polygamy an excuse to have multiple partners?
  • What I understand is that “polygamy is a type of oppression and slavery where children are forced to follow the religious beliefs of polygamy. Young girls get married at an early age to older men. Some are even sexually molested by their own parents. Every single women living in polygamy goes through rape, sexual abuse and as a result their human rights are violated.
  • Many Muslim men in the US secretly get married to multiple wives. Why it’s still not being reported? In Africa almost all the women have experienced Polygamy. Why it’s still not reported in the media.

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We often think that why these women are not coming forward if they are being victimized. Are they really happy in the kind of environment they are living in? But how can we ignore the fact that there is a possibility that ‘they are quiet because of fear of being taken away from their kids. And most of the polygamy women are too scared to stand against their religious community without any support. Most of the polygamy women are not educated and are dependent on their husbands for financial help.

It’s a high time to stop the perilous practice of polygamy.

CNN LARRY KING –

To Read An Interview With Polygamist Winston Blackmore – ( Click Here )
A Conversation with Gordon B. Hinckley, President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints ( Click Here )

Inside the World of Polygamy; Interview With Stephen Colbert ( Click Here )

Why Do We Sometimes Hate Ourselves?

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Loneliness is killing me from within

I am sure that this “topic” will sound “bizarre” to some of the readers. Personally speaking “Psychology” is one of my favorite areas of interest. The title is directly connected to:-

  1. Depression
  2. Loneliness
  3. Stress
  4. Anger
  5. Alcoholic
  6. Chain Smoker
  7. Drug Addiction
  8. And many more emotional setbacks.

Mostly, those people who don’t admire themselves tend to have various emotional problems. Some of the main reasons of an individual “hating themselves” are:-

  1. Being let down by the society
  2. Injustice
  3. Criticism
  4. Lack of Emotional Attachment
  5. Domestic Violence
  6. Childhood Abuse
  7. Sexual Abuse
  8. Lack of self esteem
  9. Neglected by the society
  10. Rejection

  • In order to lead a blissful life, it’s very important to have self – love. You can’t gain the love of others if you lack self love. First you need to be at peace with yourself then only you can gain peace with others.
  • Needless to say, introspection is the answer to all your questions. It will allow you to help yourself by allowing you to overcome all the negative emotions which you have build against yourself.
  • Write down all the memories, decisions, individuals and incidents that make you feel inferior of yourself.
  • Don’t doubt your true ability to be a strong person and assemble all the strong attributes of your personality.
  • Don’t set unrealistic standards for yourself. If you think you have made certain wrong decisions in life then try to self – empathize. Nobody is perfect! Even the most influential people on this earth have made mistakes in life.

  • Don’t let your past bad decisions hinder your future growth. Accept all your mistakes and learn a lesson from every mistake you commit.
  • There are many people who have suffered from some kind of abuse in their lives. Indeed it’s tormenting to go through an emotional abuse.
  • If you think you should have apposed the oppressor in the past then its better late than never. Never endure ay kind of abuse no matter in which form it is targeted on you.
  • Have you missed any opportunities in the past and didn’t give your best effort? I am sure it hurts and sometimes we do curse ourselves for not utilizing an opportunity in the best possible way.
  • I have noticed many people discussing about their past regrets and blaming themselves. This way they become a victim of depression but they are also obliterating their present and the future.
  • Many times I have seen people blaming their cultural or family background for not being successful in their lives. I know the family values and guidance counts a lot in shaping an individual. But after a while it’s our actions and decisions that can either “make us” or “break us”.
  • Therefore, it’s alright if you have not received the required assistance in the past. You can now be “self-motivated” and excel in your life. It’s quite fulfilling to be “On Your Own”

How the Psychology of Serial killers Work- Are You Curious To Discover?

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Since my school days I have been inclined on “how the Psychology of Serial killers Works”

How can we really study the complexities of the psychology behind serial killers? For over many years the main explanation which I have been discovering on – Why some people turned into serial killers? – What exactly Serial Killers go through? Research suggests some of the main following circumstances:

  1. Childhood Abuse
  2. Brain Injuries
  3. Genetics
  4. Rejection
  5. Family problems
  6. Injustice
  7. Painful traumatic experiences
  8. Sexual Abuse
  9. Cultural or Family Background

Does that imply that those people who go through the above situations will turn out to be Serial Killers? There is a huge percentage of population that goes through some of the above traumas.

  • What is the factor that set them apart from rest of the people? Needless to say, the killer experience a lethal urge which needs to be studied in order to understand that why a normal human being turn into a slaughter.
  • Obviously, the serial killer goes through a dire rage while committing the crimes. But Hold On! Don’t we all experience Rage and end up loosing control on our self? However, we cope with our anguish and don’t go to an extent of loosing our morality.
  • What’s that part in our mind that helps us gain control on ourselves. What’s lacking in the serial killers mind that forces them to become a beast? Overall, we need to know the factors that set them apart. Why can’t the serial killers curb the monster in themselves?
  • Many researchers have dedicated themselves in studying the inside mind of the Serial Killers. In the coming posts we will surely discuss about it.