What men really want ? Have you ever realized how men behave differently with women who are independent (Here I mean financially independent women ) and those who are earning moderately and those who are just home makers.
Few days back I was wondering on how the society rate men based on their ability to support the family financially. Later, it made me think few things about men also. I think Men rate women based on their careers.
In relationships women face different career choices based on the situation. Usually, it happens during the time when you choose to have kids. Sometimes, you will find women leaving their careers after having kids. And those women who wish to go on a job hunt after few years of kid growing up find it extremely difficult to get a hold on their careers .
Most of them end up compromising on their careers and choose options where they can manage kids and simultaneously can earn enough. This leave them with few options, either look for part time jobs , or work from home . In majority of the cases women are not paid well, they work for the sake of money and end up loosing interest in life .
On the other hand, you will find some women who choose to take care of the kids instead of hiring a nanny. They end up loosing their jobs – become financially dependent on their husbands. And in case the relationship doesn’t work out, then they will be in deep shit. Because she decides to quit her career and take care of the house, kids and the family. That’s why women who choose to take care of the kids and be the homemaker feel less confident than working women. This may lead to insecurities in life about the future
Few days back I went on a dinner to my friend’s house, we talked about men in general!!! What Italian men think? What kind of relationship Indian or American men want? All of my friends have the same view on – men respect women if they are financially independent.
Then I had a conversation with one of my male friend – who thinks women are weaker than men. Therefore, if men find financially independent women they feel more attracted towards them. I totally disagree with his opinion. My mother worked all her life, took care of us, handled household work and what not. Does that make her weak?
And even if some women are not earning and just taking care of the kids and the house- That doesn’t make them weak? MIND IT – Taking care of the house and the kids is not a joyride.
I am sure that this “topic” will sound “bizarre” to some of the readers. Personally speaking “Psychology” is one of my favorite areas of interest. The title is directly connected to:-
And many more emotional setbacks.
Mostly, those people who don’t admire themselves tend to have various emotional problems. Some of the main reasons of an individual “hating themselves” are:-
Being let down by the society
Lack of Emotional Attachment
Lack of self esteem
Neglected by the society
In order to lead a blissful life, it’s very important to have self – love. You can’t gain the love of others if you lack self love. First you need to be at peace with yourself then only you can gain peace with others.
Needless to say, introspection is the answer to all your questions. It will allow you to help yourself by allowing you to overcome all the negative emotions which you have build against yourself.
Write down all the memories, decisions, individuals and incidents that make you feel inferior of yourself.
Don’t doubt your true ability to be a strong person and assemble all the strong attributes of your personality.
Don’t set unrealistic standards for yourself. If you think you have made certain wrong decisions in life then try to self – empathize. Nobody is perfect! Even the most influential people on this earth have made mistakes in life.
Don’t let your past bad decisions hinder your future growth. Accept all your mistakes and learn a lesson from every mistake you commit.
There are many people who have suffered from some kind of abuse in their lives. Indeed it’s tormenting to go through an emotional abuse.
If you think you should have apposed the oppressor in the past then its better late than never. Never endure ay kind of abuse no matter in which form it is targeted on you.
Have you missed any opportunities in the past and didn’t give your best effort? I am sure it hurts and sometimes we do curse ourselves for not utilizing an opportunity in the best possible way.
I have noticed many people discussing about their past regrets and blaming themselves. This way they become a victim of depression but they are also obliterating their present and the future.
Many times I have seen people blaming their cultural or family background for not being successful in their lives. I know the family values and guidance counts a lot in shaping an individual. But after a while it’s our actions and decisions that can either “make us” or “break us”.
Therefore, it’s alright if you have not received the required assistance in the past. You can now be “self-motivated” and excel in your life. It’s quite fulfilling to be “On Your Own”