09 OctWhy Do We Sometimes Hate Ourselves?

Loneliness is killing me from within

I am sure that this “topic” will sound “bizarre” to some of the readers. Personally speaking “Psychology” is one of my favorite areas of interest. The title is directly connected to:-

  1. Depression
  2. Loneliness
  3. Stress
  4. Anger
  5. Alcoholic
  6. Chain Smoker
  7. Drug Addiction
  8. And many more emotional setbacks.

Mostly, those people who don’t admire themselves tend to have various emotional problems. Some of the main reasons of an individual “hating themselves” are:-

  1. Being let down by the society
  2. Injustice
  3. Criticism
  4. Lack of Emotional Attachment
  5. Domestic Violence
  6. Childhood Abuse
  7. Sexual Abuse
  8. Lack of self esteem
  9. Neglected by the society
  10. Rejection

  • In order to lead a blissful life, it’s very important to have self – love. You can’t gain the love of others if you lack self love. First you need to be at peace with yourself then only you can gain peace with others.
  • Needless to say, introspection is the answer to all your questions. It will allow you to help yourself by allowing you to overcome all the negative emotions which you have build against yourself.
  • Write down all the memories, decisions, individuals and incidents that make you feel inferior of yourself.
  • Don’t doubt your true ability to be a strong person and assemble all the strong attributes of your personality.
  • Don’t set unrealistic standards for yourself. If you think you have made certain wrong decisions in life then try to self – empathize. Nobody is perfect! Even the most influential people on this earth have made mistakes in life.

  • Don’t let your past bad decisions hinder your future growth. Accept all your mistakes and learn a lesson from every mistake you commit.
  • There are many people who have suffered from some kind of abuse in their lives. Indeed it’s tormenting to go through an emotional abuse.
  • If you think you should have apposed the oppressor in the past then its better late than never. Never endure ay kind of abuse no matter in which form it is targeted on you.
  • Have you missed any opportunities in the past and didn’t give your best effort? I am sure it hurts and sometimes we do curse ourselves for not utilizing an opportunity in the best possible way.
  • I have noticed many people discussing about their past regrets and blaming themselves. This way they become a victim of depression but they are also obliterating their present and the future.
  • Many times I have seen people blaming their cultural or family background for not being successful in their lives. I know the family values and guidance counts a lot in shaping an individual. But after a while it’s our actions and decisions that can either “make us” or “break us”.
  • Therefore, it’s alright if you have not received the required assistance in the past. You can now be “self-motivated” and excel in your life. It’s quite fulfilling to be “On Your Own”

9 Responses to “Why Do We Sometimes Hate Ourselves?”

  1. vinni says:

    it not seems to be a topic of interest to you, but also a topic of expertise! i really could relate to many portions of the post! are you studying all this?

  2. Pooja.Brahmi says:

    Hi Vini Thanks for dropping By-

    Naah I am not studying anything – Have done enough studying in the past;)

    I write from my life experiences. And there are a wide array of topics which interest me. Internet provides a medium to share your thoughts and debate about it.(which I love doing in my free time).

  3. Manas Mishra says:

    hi,its good to see such a topic touched by you.Its been a hiddent part in every human to have this feeling to hate himself.Its just the difference is that some of us,dont hide it and some of us dont allow us due to rest of the world.I am like this and although now I have learn this art to do things on my own to fight the kind of strange feeling but for those who still are new in the buisness,this blog will surely be helpful.

  4. Pooja.Brahmi says:

    Hi Manas,

    There is not a single person on this earth who has not said “Oh I hate myself for doing it” once in his/her lifetime.

    It’s very important to be at peace with yourself by accepting the way you are, decisions you take, responsibility for your actions..And most of all, if ou want others to love you and respect you .. you yourself need to love your identity first thn only other people will do the same.

    Anyway, This topic needs more coverage (will add more). Been ver busy lately!..

  5. Vibs says:

    Amazing debate.. Nice to know the philosophers in action 🙂 🙂

    Generally people who hate themselves doesn’t stick in present.. their past or future keeps them withhold and they are involved in this vicious cycle thus creating causes for even further miseries. Remember a person who is always in misery can’t experience misery so definitely they must be having some even good times too in their life which they always forget to cherish or acknowledge !

    Actually in reality our past is our PRESENT and our FUTURE is our PRESENT !!!


  6. Pooja.Brahmi says:

    Hi Vibs,

    I agree with you.. The perspective of life plays a vital role in framing our mind. Either we can generate a positive frame of mind by focusing on our strengths or we can confine ourselves in all the negative viewpoints (whether it’s related to the past, present or the future). Life is too short then why to waste time in cursing our fate, decisions and actions. Life experiences teach you a lot.

    Btw have you read this – http://loveparadiseforyou.com/?p=177

    What do you think about the whole situation?

  7. Vibs says:

    http://loveparadiseforyou.com/?p=177 is kinda of enlightening multi-dimensional truth.. I guess I’ll be needing a day or so to analyze it from my genuine point of view !

    by the way I’m also into the documentaries and have various releases on the internet which was downloaded by thousands.. check out one of the hot releases

  8. Pooja.Brahmi says:

    What kind of Documentaries you like?
    Can you please tell the link where I can watch the documentaries instead of downloading. Hubby and I love watching documentaries.. all the time I switch on to Viasat History and Viasat Explorer T.V channels..Am not sure if it comes in Delhi..
    Do send me some of your favouritez documentaries..(Sad part is on my laptop I can’t login to youtube.com d minute i do it my laptop gets shutdown and I cant download stuff also) So if there is any other source please let me know.

  9. Vibs says:

    There is no categorization about the type of documentaries that I like. As you might seen the link that is given in my post earlier to post that I like any type of documentary which can add a new mind perceptive to my current thinking set and thus analyze the situation from the angle of that producer as well.
    No your channel doesn’t get broadcast here. As you are facing with the internet downloading problems plus the youtube video is limited to 10 minutes so I guess that only feasible way left out for you is to get the DVDs couriered or I can upload for you at my web servers and from there you can download and even all other who can read this post ..

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