Heal YourSelf From Your Depressing Past



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Have you ever wondered how similar our journey of life is in certain ways?

  • All of us have experienced Hurt in relationships , still life moves on leaving behind the feeling of bitterness , hurt and resentment. Later we end up labeling it a failed relationship . Not many people come in terms with the hurt of the past relationship and that may result in depression. In other cases it can cause fear in your mind of not trusting anyone. Either you feel incapable of maintaining a relationship or you are too scared to get hurt all over again.
  • One thing on which all of us would agree is that relationships help us grow in life, no matter you had a failed relationship or have a very fulfilling relationship. Thus, would it be right to label relationships as failed or successful? In my opinion it’s important to first come in terms with your past relationship hurt. In most of the cases we move on with life but find it hard to forgive or forget. Majority of us struggle hard to forgive, and if you have not forgiven someone then it’s impossible to forget the hurt of your past relationship.
  • Majority of us find it hard to forgive; indeed it’s not easy to inculcate a forgiving nature. I myself have struggled to forgive some people in my life who have deeply hurt me. Then I wonder may be forgetting those people will help me in eliminating those distressful memories. As a result it may help me curb my anger towards those people. But unfortunately I have not been successful in either forgetting or forgiving and as a result it’s severely affecting my peace of mind.

hurt of a breakup

  • After all it’s not easy to forget the hurt, some people say time is the biggest healer but I kind of disagree. Those people who are forgiving in nature are really blessed in life. I have read and watched many documentaries about forgiveness. But none of them have helped me in anyways.The only help that assists me is Self Help. I have gone through innumerable helpful quotes, verses, inspirational stories or biographies but again of no use. One mindset that helped me to pacify my hurt is to tell myself that relationships help us grow in life. As a result, with time I have become a stronger person, now the way I perceive life and relationships is totally different  than the way I used to 10 years ago. Still there is a lot to learn about life in general.
  • One can practice introspection of your past relationship that will help you in realizing the mistakes you committed. Every relationship (with your family, spouse, boy friend, girl friend, children and so on) helps you grow in life . If you look back in life and introspect – you will find a change in yourself in comparison to what you were in the past. All of us change with time and some of the main factors of the change in you are relationships. Therefore, if your past broken relationship helped you grow in certain aspects of your life then how can you label it a failed relationship?

The utmost important relationship in life is your relationship with yourself. Self Esteem, Self Awareness, Self Conciousness, Self Growth, Self Respect and Self Help are the most significant and essential facet of our lives.

Powerful Self Improvement Tips To Be Successful


Powerful self improvement tips that can change your perspective towards life and help you accomplish your goals and give you a complete peace of mind.

The most important factor for an individual’s well being is to gain peace. In order to do that you need to practice introspection.

  • Once you gain respect for yourself then you start creating self love. Needless to say, you will discover various phases in your life which you wish you could forget or eliminate from your memory. But you find it hard to brush off certain phases of your life which you tend to detest.
  • It could be anything – you mistreating your spouse or children, not giving your best in your academics, not working hard enough in the past, being a victim of sexual abuse or domestic violence or any possible act which you despise.
  • It’s easy to sit back and trap your mind with all those moments which haunts you. Due to this millions of people become a victim of depression and have lack of self confident and it may lead to  other health related problems. As a result you loose focus in your life and possibly it will result in another disgraceful phase of your life, which will hinder your self growth.
  • It’s quite simple to see successful people around and give a round of applause for their achievements. Always remember one rule of your life – If you want to achieve your goals then you need to be TOUGH. Stop wasting your time in doing useless things which won’t take you towards your goals. Learn the art of time management.
  • Tell yourself that no matter what kind of failures I have experienced in my life. There is always another chance to bounce back and be back in the race of life. Bestow yourself with self motivation and confidence.
  • Your negative emotions will curb your confidence but if you challenge yourself to deal with negative emotions then sooner or later you will win over all your fears, anguish, and depressive state of mind.
  • I am writing this article based on my life. There were times when I used to treat myself “Worthless”. It had taken me some time to win over my fears, disappointments and regrets of my life. Certainly, it’s not that easy as it sounds. But life is more interesting when you challenge yourself.
  • Firstly, dedicate your life towards creating your own identity. The only cure of Depression is to transform your life for the betterment of your self being. Never consider your life to be hopeless. Your life is in your hands, either you can excel in life or you can live in isolation. So what have you decided?

Do share your opinions about how you treat your life.